I know, it is really hard on kids, and sometimes harder on their parents.
The best thing to do for your daughter is to help her develop a strong self-image. When she knows she is intelligent, talented and special she will not
blame herself for being different. With your help and guidance she will accept that she is different, but for the better.
And allow her to be actively involved in the decision-making that goes along with having alopecia areata. How involved depends on her age and maturity, but she absolutely must be involved. How we parents feel isn’t nearly as important as how the child feels One mother told her daughter that everyone has something; It’s the human condition. If you have alopecia, you’re lucky in some ways because you know what it is that you must deal with – and otherwise you’re perfectly healthy. In fact, alopecia means your body is working overtime to keep you healthy! She also likes to tell her daughter that because of her alopecia, she is developing a sympathetic outlook. Alopecia teaches us to look beyond and beneath the surface.
There's more in my book -- you can get in on Amazon.com. It might really help. It's helped a lot of women and girls, and it's a fun read, too!