How to deal with kids calling your child bald - Alopecia World2024-03-29T15:13:46Zhttps://alopeciaworld.com/forum/topics/how-to-deal-with-kids-calling-your-child-bald?commentId=2022678%3AComment%3A1203634&x=1&feed=yes&xn_auth=noTallguy,
I like your mom's sa…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-28:2022678:Comment:12036912014-07-28T23:58:29.406Zmelkat09https://alopeciaworld.com/profile/mkn26
<p>Tallguy,</p>
<p>I like your mom's sarcasm! I think she handled that situation in a more composed manner than I would have! It is crazy that you all were used to dealing with that kind of ignorance and abuse...it is disturbing how horrible some people can be. I have restrained myself in many situations because I have not wanted to make a big to-do in front of my son when he wasn't upset...but someone like that would have set me off!</p>
<p>Tallguy,</p>
<p>I like your mom's sarcasm! I think she handled that situation in a more composed manner than I would have! It is crazy that you all were used to dealing with that kind of ignorance and abuse...it is disturbing how horrible some people can be. I have restrained myself in many situations because I have not wanted to make a big to-do in front of my son when he wasn't upset...but someone like that would have set me off!</p> Thanks again everyone. It rea…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-27:2022678:Comment:12034232014-07-27T23:17:29.630Zmelkat09https://alopeciaworld.com/profile/mkn26
<p>Thanks again everyone. It really does not seem to bother him when people touch his head...so we will take that into consideration from now on :)</p>
<p>Thanks again everyone. It really does not seem to bother him when people touch his head...so we will take that into consideration from now on :)</p> I know my daughter enjoys peo…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-26:2022678:Comment:12033112014-07-26T20:30:57.929ZDenahttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Dena217
<p>I know my daughter enjoys people touching her head. I think in her mind that it is a way of people accepting her. The same way she plays with her close friend's hair. I have also stroked her head since this all began and her friends, coaches, teacher etc. have all done it occasionally. She tells me she likes having her head rubbed. My daughter has Alopecia Universalis and most kids comment on how soft her head feels. I am surprised by how many seem interested in touching her head, but people…</p>
<p>I know my daughter enjoys people touching her head. I think in her mind that it is a way of people accepting her. The same way she plays with her close friend's hair. I have also stroked her head since this all began and her friends, coaches, teacher etc. have all done it occasionally. She tells me she likes having her head rubbed. My daughter has Alopecia Universalis and most kids comment on how soft her head feels. I am surprised by how many seem interested in touching her head, but people use to touch her hair when she had hair so I guess it is sorta the same thing. It might help to contact NAAF since your child is school age. They have lots of resources that can help his classmates understand his condition. Sometimes you or his teacher just sitting down and explaining it gets all the questions out of the way. I agree to just follow his lead. If a child doesn't seem to realize anything is wrong and their parent acts as if there is, it is only going to make them stress over a situation that they were unaware of in the first place. Young kids don't have the social skills to understand when they are crossing boundaries. I really think most of the time they mean nothing by it and I try my best to cut them a break if my daughter seems o.k. Unfortunately there are a lot of adults who are insensitive too. Those people are not so easily ignored.</p> Dear Melkat09
My son is also…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-26:2022678:Comment:12033692014-07-26T18:04:44.915ZYogitahttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Yogita
<p>Dear Melkat09</p>
<p>My son is also 5 years old and experiencing AT. He is also facing similar problems at school and / or other places. I have taught him to ignore such comments. I keep on telling him Hair or no hair he is my child and we love him no matter what. He is one of twins. So I've taught his brother to tell him the same. We say 'I love you' to him very frequently. It has tremendously positive effect that he has stopped gritting teeth in sleep. I have learned first thing about…</p>
<p>Dear Melkat09</p>
<p>My son is also 5 years old and experiencing AT. He is also facing similar problems at school and / or other places. I have taught him to ignore such comments. I keep on telling him Hair or no hair he is my child and we love him no matter what. He is one of twins. So I've taught his brother to tell him the same. We say 'I love you' to him very frequently. It has tremendously positive effect that he has stopped gritting teeth in sleep. I have learned first thing about Alopecia is that you have to accept the situation. Stop over protecting your child, see the inner beauty and enhance child's abilities. Encourage him to come forward and speak in front of other people. Even if 1 person listen to him without teasing him, it will help kid to enhance his confidence.</p>
<p>Arnav's new class teacher congratulated me on the very first meeting. Saying that he is very composed about his appearance. We have long way to go. Together WE CAN..... Take care</p> I agree 100%. tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-25:2022678:Comment:12032242014-07-25T16:39:23.647ZJaxelladaddyhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Jaxelladaddy
<p>I agree 100%. </p>
<p>I agree 100%. </p> Take your lead from him. If…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-25:2022678:Comment:12032172014-07-25T13:19:54.030ZBaldisBeautifulhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/BaldisBeautiful
<p>Take your lead from him. If it bothers your son talk with him about how he would like you to handle the situation. If it doesn't bother him, don't let him know it bothers you. You don't want him to take on your sensitivities. If he is confident and it doesn't bother him, you don't want to take that confidence away from him. Talk with him and let him tell you what he wants.</p>
<p>Sometimes it bothers me and I can tell by my daughters face that it bothers her. It's typically younger…</p>
<p>Take your lead from him. If it bothers your son talk with him about how he would like you to handle the situation. If it doesn't bother him, don't let him know it bothers you. You don't want him to take on your sensitivities. If he is confident and it doesn't bother him, you don't want to take that confidence away from him. Talk with him and let him tell you what he wants.</p>
<p>Sometimes it bothers me and I can tell by my daughters face that it bothers her. It's typically younger kids who can't help themselves because they are curious and I've explained that to her. Sometimes her friends will touch her head, but it doesn't seem to bother her and I guess it is the equivalent of playing with each others hair. I've also stroked her head since she was little when we would cuddle (like my mom would with me) so maybe she is used to the feeling.</p> this might sound a bit bad bu…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-25:2022678:Comment:12029842014-07-25T01:02:21.243Zfather of a girl with alopeciahttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/fatherofagirlwithalopecia
<p>this might sound a bit bad but with my girl having alopecia i feel like its worse than for boys,as ive always liked having a shaved head,i do know its not the case and that it would be very hard for boys aswell,im glad to see that your daughter has stood up for herself ,i just hope my girl gets the confidence to do the same when it comes to that.</p>
<p>thank you baldis beautiful</p>
<p>this might sound a bit bad but with my girl having alopecia i feel like its worse than for boys,as ive always liked having a shaved head,i do know its not the case and that it would be very hard for boys aswell,im glad to see that your daughter has stood up for herself ,i just hope my girl gets the confidence to do the same when it comes to that.</p>
<p>thank you baldis beautiful</p> thank you for your input.
peo…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-25:2022678:Comment:12031042014-07-25T00:49:35.106Zfather of a girl with alopeciahttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/fatherofagirlwithalopecia
<p>thank you for your input.</p>
<p>people really are beautiful from the inside out</p>
<p>thank you for your input.</p>
<p>people really are beautiful from the inside out</p> wow thanks Tall guy,im a pare…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-25:2022678:Comment:12032522014-07-25T00:46:19.370Zfather of a girl with alopeciahttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/fatherofagirlwithalopecia
<p>wow thanks Tall guy,im a parent of a five year old girl with alopecia,has just lost her eyebrows an starting to lose her eye lashes as well.what you have just said has just put things into perspective more.</p>
<p>im always worried abut how it will be for her growing up (teasing).</p>
<p>to me she is still as beautiful as ever,an always will be.</p>
<p>thanks</p>
<p>wow thanks Tall guy,im a parent of a five year old girl with alopecia,has just lost her eyebrows an starting to lose her eye lashes as well.what you have just said has just put things into perspective more.</p>
<p>im always worried abut how it will be for her growing up (teasing).</p>
<p>to me she is still as beautiful as ever,an always will be.</p>
<p>thanks</p> Wow! Thank you all so much fo…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2014-07-24:2022678:Comment:12031962014-07-24T23:35:02.679Zmelkat09https://alopeciaworld.com/profile/mkn26
<p>Wow! Thank you all so much for your responses. It is pretty amazing to hear your stories and to know that I am not alone in the ways that I struggle. I think we will start with a casual conversation so that he is aware that some people are curious and may ask or say something, and teach him a quick, matter of fact response. Can I pick your brains again really quickly as to how you deal with the kids touching or rubbing your children's head as well? That REALLY gets me worked up.</p>
<p>Wow! Thank you all so much for your responses. It is pretty amazing to hear your stories and to know that I am not alone in the ways that I struggle. I think we will start with a casual conversation so that he is aware that some people are curious and may ask or say something, and teach him a quick, matter of fact response. Can I pick your brains again really quickly as to how you deal with the kids touching or rubbing your children's head as well? That REALLY gets me worked up.</p>