Won't go to school - Alopecia World2024-03-28T14:29:01Zhttps://alopeciaworld.com/forum/topics/wont-go-to-school?commentId=2022678%3AComment%3A406891&x=1&feed=yes&xn_auth=noYes Gale, he is making great…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-02-13:2022678:Comment:4068912010-02-13T05:54:26.918ZSusan - Jon's Mumhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/SusanSartori
Yes Gale, he is making great strides. I am so proud of him. I am hopeful that it is possible for us to go to a support group meeting soon.<br />
Thank you for caring.<br />
Susan
Yes Gale, he is making great strides. I am so proud of him. I am hopeful that it is possible for us to go to a support group meeting soon.<br />
Thank you for caring.<br />
Susan Hi Susan, sounds like Jon is…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-02-06:2022678:Comment:4047522010-02-06T04:34:28.331ZGale Moormanhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/GaleMariaMoorman
Hi Susan, sounds like Jon is making great strides in being more relaxed and coming to terms with his condition. Sounds good and hopefully he will continue and the both of you will be able to go to a support group that is only 4 hours away.
Hi Susan, sounds like Jon is making great strides in being more relaxed and coming to terms with his condition. Sounds good and hopefully he will continue and the both of you will be able to go to a support group that is only 4 hours away. Gale
Thanks for your advice.…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-02-06:2022678:Comment:4046262010-02-06T00:20:02.077ZSusan - Jon's Mumhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/SusanSartori
Gale<br />
Thanks for your advice. Unfortunately Jon is adamant he doesn't wish to go to any support groups. The closest one to us at the moment is in Sydney and is around a 9 hour drive. There was one for a time only about 4 hours away. I am hoping that that one will start up again.<br />
We are a member of the group in Sydney but have yet to physically attend. I am hoping that we will get Jon to one this year. We are working on him ;)<br />
This site has helped, even though he doesn't want to be a member…
Gale<br />
Thanks for your advice. Unfortunately Jon is adamant he doesn't wish to go to any support groups. The closest one to us at the moment is in Sydney and is around a 9 hour drive. There was one for a time only about 4 hours away. I am hoping that that one will start up again.<br />
We are a member of the group in Sydney but have yet to physically attend. I am hoping that we will get Jon to one this year. We are working on him ;)<br />
This site has helped, even though he doesn't want to be a member himself he comes in and reads comments and that when I am on here. He did communicate a tad with a couple of other teenagers on here. But he is a bit stubborn.<br />
He is seeing a counsellor at the moment and has started a new small Christian school where a close friend goes to. He has been going for a week now and there has been such a change in him. He said that he is happy to go to school now. He enjoys the class he is in. All the kids get on with each other and relate well to the teacher. This week he started playing indoor soccer and is talking about joining a soccer team this winter. He has been going to a youth group where alot of the Christian students go and it is run by a family friend. He has been communicating more to friends, girls and family. So I think he is going forward at last. He had 6 months off overall. Maybe he just needed a bit of time to think and accept?<br />
I will continue to try to get him to a support group meeting though cos I agree that it would help him.<br />
Thanks again<br />
Susan Hi Susan, think it would be v…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-02-04:2022678:Comment:4043302010-02-04T22:52:02.452ZGale Moormanhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/GaleMariaMoorman
Hi Susan, think it would be very important for you and your son to stay connected to a support group. They are everywhere and you would be able to talk with people that has a similar situation as your son (and you). The groups are very beneficial for you to be there physically and find out what other options to take and great emotionally to talk with other on how they cope and live with this disorder. Going on the internet and finding a group in your area is extremely important. You and your…
Hi Susan, think it would be very important for you and your son to stay connected to a support group. They are everywhere and you would be able to talk with people that has a similar situation as your son (and you). The groups are very beneficial for you to be there physically and find out what other options to take and great emotionally to talk with other on how they cope and live with this disorder. Going on the internet and finding a group in your area is extremely important. You and your son needs to do that as soon as possible and then you'll see that you're not alone. Hi Erin
Thanks for your comme…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-01-29:2022678:Comment:4018632010-01-29T01:23:08.405ZSusan - Jon's Mumhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/SusanSartori
Hi Erin<br />
Thanks for your comments.<br />
Jon has had 6 months off school now. Yesterday he started a new school - a small Christian school that a close friend of his goes to. So far so good. He had a good first day so here's hoping it all goes well. He says he feels more comfortable there and it is more laid back - less stressful.<br />
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You are so right that a good attitude makes all the difference. That goes for anything in life - if you have a good attitude you will get the best out of life. I commend…
Hi Erin<br />
Thanks for your comments.<br />
Jon has had 6 months off school now. Yesterday he started a new school - a small Christian school that a close friend of his goes to. So far so good. He had a good first day so here's hoping it all goes well. He says he feels more comfortable there and it is more laid back - less stressful.<br />
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You are so right that a good attitude makes all the difference. That goes for anything in life - if you have a good attitude you will get the best out of life. I commend you on your attitude and that you have 'moved on' and don't let it get to you. That is exactly what I wish for Jon and we are working hard to achieve this.<br />
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Enjoy your son as they grow so quickly.<br />
Take care and thanks again<br />
Susan Thanks Monique
So wise for a…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-01-27:2022678:Comment:4012302010-01-27T03:24:04.248ZSusan - Jon's Mumhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/SusanSartori
Thanks Monique<br />
So wise for a 17 year old.<br />
I believe that having Alopecia certainly makes you a stronger person.<br />
I will pass on this comment to Jon. He is starting a new school tomorrow. It is a small Christian school. He has a close friend that goes there. He feels very comfortable with this friend as he accepts Jon for who he is and they have alot in common which is good.<br />
He is getting stronger and more accepting every day.<br />
Thank you again for caring.<br />
Hope that all is well with you<br />
Susan
Thanks Monique<br />
So wise for a 17 year old.<br />
I believe that having Alopecia certainly makes you a stronger person.<br />
I will pass on this comment to Jon. He is starting a new school tomorrow. It is a small Christian school. He has a close friend that goes there. He feels very comfortable with this friend as he accepts Jon for who he is and they have alot in common which is good.<br />
He is getting stronger and more accepting every day.<br />
Thank you again for caring.<br />
Hope that all is well with you<br />
Susan hi my name is monique i have…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-01-25:2022678:Comment:4008712010-01-25T23:59:40.027Zmonique corderohttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/moniquecordero
hi my name is monique i have had AA since i was born. im 17 years old now and a senior. i could understand where he is coming from. my first year of high school i told my grandmother to shave my hair off as well. i felt free. . . my headaches would go away. . . and my head was less sensitive. i have also been playing softball for quite a while now. its my passion. sports to me, in my opinoin lets me relieve stress and allows me to be myself. all the pain, critisisms from others who dont…
hi my name is monique i have had AA since i was born. im 17 years old now and a senior. i could understand where he is coming from. my first year of high school i told my grandmother to shave my hair off as well. i felt free. . . my headaches would go away. . . and my head was less sensitive. i have also been playing softball for quite a while now. its my passion. sports to me, in my opinoin lets me relieve stress and allows me to be myself. all the pain, critisisms from others who dont understand, people talking about me as if i were some alien. all that gets left outside the field. iv grown from all that and learned that i have people that love and care for me no matter what i look like. people who dont understand and tease us have no life and seem to find joy in humiliating others. its not fair but its the world we live in. we have to be strong and show others that we are just the same as they are except we appreciate our life more than they do. make sure he finds friends that will comfort him and be his friend not feeling bad just because of his condition. tell him to not be afraid just be strong and have faith. Hi. I just saw this post and…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-01-25:2022678:Comment:4007992010-01-25T17:46:33.327ZErinhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Erin
Hi. I just saw this post and wow it sounds just like me. I kinda secretly though it would have been easier to be a boy with this, but obviously that is not the case, I now know that. Anyway I was the same, I wouldn't go to school for a few weeks when my hair first fell out when i was 15 and I too eventually dropped out of sports I found it hard to do them with a wig.<br />
But, I would maybe give him a bit of time to stay home and adjust, but let him know he still needs to go to school. That this…
Hi. I just saw this post and wow it sounds just like me. I kinda secretly though it would have been easier to be a boy with this, but obviously that is not the case, I now know that. Anyway I was the same, I wouldn't go to school for a few weeks when my hair first fell out when i was 15 and I too eventually dropped out of sports I found it hard to do them with a wig.<br />
But, I would maybe give him a bit of time to stay home and adjust, but let him know he still needs to go to school. That this will be ok. that anyone (if anyone does) that bugs him about it just feels crappy about themselves and they need to get thier own life. Let him know that it is just hair, that it really is not important, i know that can be hard to belive, but I absolutely believe it. I do know a guy from another school who had alopecia when I was in highschool, he had the best attitude, he was funny and charming and everyone looked right past the fact that he had no hair or eyebrows, he still did all the things we all did, I think that is why I always thoght boys had it easier with it all, BUT he didn't it was just his attitude that was different, he didn't let it get to him. neither did I, and i ope your son learns that soon as well.<br />
Good luck and let me know if i can help with anything :) Hi Terri
Thanks for your advi…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-01-06:2022678:Comment:3949932010-01-06T06:13:41.875ZSusan - Jon's Mumhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/SusanSartori
Hi Terri<br />
Thanks for your advice.<br />
We have actually got him into a better counsellor. She is taking things slowly but we can see alot of improvement in his attitude. Plus we did try some other things.<br />
We got him a cat, which has helped - yes to help him focus on something other than his problems. We encouraged him to start seeing an old friend of his (Jaykeb)that went to another school. He has gone and done things with him and started going to a youth group with him which has helped. We suggested…
Hi Terri<br />
Thanks for your advice.<br />
We have actually got him into a better counsellor. She is taking things slowly but we can see alot of improvement in his attitude. Plus we did try some other things.<br />
We got him a cat, which has helped - yes to help him focus on something other than his problems. We encouraged him to start seeing an old friend of his (Jaykeb)that went to another school. He has gone and done things with him and started going to a youth group with him which has helped. We suggested he go to the same school that Jaykeb goes to, which is a small Christian school - he has agreed that he would feel more comfortable there. Alot of the kids that go to the youth group go there as well. He is also going to play indoor soccer with some of the youth group boys. He is looking ahead again which is such a relief and he is planning what he wants to do etc. He just got a video camcorder, he has used his digital still camera so much we thought he would like this. He is wrapped and is taking small movie clips and is planning what else he can do.<br />
We are also going to buy some kayaks and take him and Jaykeb out kayaking and he is looking forward to that.<br />
He is very capable and has alot of natural ability in whatever he tries. He lost himself for a while and I think that he is slowly coming back.<br />
Thankyou again for your support, it is very much appreciated. Hi Susan,
I am so sorry to he…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2010-01-04:2022678:Comment:3945862010-01-04T17:16:13.432Zterrihttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/terrioscar
Hi Susan,<br />
I am so sorry to hear that Jon is having a really tough time. I haven't read all these posts, but my heart breaks for him. I am alarmed at what you have wrote and as a Mom, I would be extremely proactive for him!! Kids have trouble all the time with depression and socializing issues. I would be careful to assume that his depression is because of his alopecia. Yes, it might contribute, but there is clearly more to his not wanting to go to school and lack of friendship. This dear lovely…
Hi Susan,<br />
I am so sorry to hear that Jon is having a really tough time. I haven't read all these posts, but my heart breaks for him. I am alarmed at what you have wrote and as a Mom, I would be extremely proactive for him!! Kids have trouble all the time with depression and socializing issues. I would be careful to assume that his depression is because of his alopecia. Yes, it might contribute, but there is clearly more to his not wanting to go to school and lack of friendship. This dear lovely young man needs to realize how important he is and what a gift he is to this world. You should get a referral of a more qualified counselor than what you last experienced. Some are good, some aren't. I don't want to oversimplify a solution, but maybe get him a dog, so Jon isn't focusing on himself. Lots of hugs, activities where he is guaranteed to succeed, ask his teachers to encourage friendship from a peer at school.