Angell

, Female

by Philly in NJ

United States

Profile Information:

Relationship Status:
Single
About Me:
Hi, I am a 52 year-old single mom. AA for 3 years on and off and then AU for over 7 years after a terribly traumatic year ending with a 3-month illness.

I am struggling to find where my feminine side has been hiding since I lost my hair. This society has drummed into people's minds that physical beauty reigns supreme. That without that - you are nothing. What a terrible message to send to our children!

To go out into the dating world again, at this age and in the "condition" (my word) that I am in is frightening to me. The thought of being rejected or being hurt or insulted for something that I have no control over is just horrible. Does anyone else share that struggle?
Are you age 18 or older?
Yes

Comment Wall:

  • kastababy

    Hi Angell, and welcome!!! I can't wait to get to know you!!!

    Mar 17, 2008

  • Cheryl, Co-founder

    I wanted to welcome to Alopecia World. I can honestly say that we are a great community here and I hope you enjoy the time you spend with us.

    Cheryl
    co-founder

    Mar 18, 2008

  • Crystal

    Girl I have been through it all...the fear of being rejected etc...but I have learned that there is someone out there for everybody.

    Apr 4, 2008

  • Christine

    Angell,

    I lost my hair the first time when I was 24. I know the nightmare navigating thru the intimate, self image aspects of the disease. I have AA so what you see is my real hair but with lots of spots that I cover up. One can never truly cover up the anxiety of hair loss, altho I try. Don't know what I would be like if it happened for the first time now.

    Hang in there.

    Apr 4, 2008

  • Cool Head

    Hi Angell,
    sometimes I feel the same way. it's hard to trust people anymore. just know you are still the same wonderful person you were with your hair. I live in MD, 53 and trying to find a special man. my friends tell me i'm chicken. just cautious I say.

    Apr 5, 2008

  • LeslieAnn Butler

    Hi Angell,
    Wow, I know what you are going through. I've been through it all, since I've had aa for 30 years! The dating part can be a nightmare. I wanted to help support other women, so I wrote a book called, "f Your Hair Falls Out, Keep Dancing!" It has lots of help with dating, men, makeup tips and tips on finding good wigs -- and other women's stories as well as my own. If you are interested, go to my page. There's a link at the bottom and you can read more about it and order if you like, online.
    Let me know if I can help you,
    LeslieAnn

    May 27, 2008

  • LeslieAnn Butler

    I totally understand. I wish you could get it, too. You can request that your library order it so more people can be helped by it.

    Jul 26, 2008

  • Barbara

    Hi Angell,
    Glad to hear that someone else here is from NJ. I'm in Norther NJ. Where are you? I've had alopecia for 36 years. It sucks but I live with it. Hopefully we'll get a chance to talk sometime.
    Barbara

    Jul 28, 2008

  • Megan

    hey Angell, it must be hard to experience AA at an older age.. do you own a freedom wig?
    lets chat.. write me back

    Jul 29, 2008

  • CSue

    You can feel feminine even with hair loss - just focus on your best assets; update your makeup or try some new accessories; treat yourself to a professional manicure & pedicure; try out some new headgear.

    Aug 2, 2008

  • Billie

    Hi Angel! I so agree withyour comment about trying to find our feminine side once again! I can honestly share your feelings about dating with this condition for I was an older single mom for over 15 years.
    Thanks goodness this website has come along!

    Aug 7, 2008

  • Megan

    a freedom wig is not a wig, its a prosthesis. It is molded to your head and is suctioned to your head. If you tug on the prosthesis, it wll not come off unless u create an air pocket with your finger. you should google "freedom hair"

    Aug 11, 2008

  • Phoenix 2.0

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    Nov 26, 2008