Tamika

51, Female

Columbus/Dayton

United States

Profile Information:

Relationship Status:
Single
About Me:
Hello everyone! I am a 35 yr old mother of three, beautiful children..I am separated..and I have alopecia. I first experienced alopecia in 2001, when I suffered two losses. First of all, I found out that a good friend of mine had cancer, and didn't have long to live. I begin to care for him, take him to appointments, and watch as his other so-called friends and family disappeared..It hurt me to watch him, and I begin to feel stressed. Next my grandfather died In April. In five months my good friend passed, and I was also in a bad relationship. Anyway, I became very depressed, not wanting to get out of bed...and I was so out of it..I never noticed how the stress was affecting me physically. One day I went to work, and some of the ladies at work kept staring at the back of my head. I knew that they were talking about me, and some of them laughed. I shrugged it off, and kept working. When I went home that evening I took a mirror and looked. I was horrified! I had a huge bald spot forming in the crown of my head. Then I noticed that the hair that used to get in my eyes all the time was gone. I wanted to die! I had been so vain about my hair..and having low self esteem..I honestly felt like hair.was all I had to hold onto. I have struggled since then with hair loss, and stress. I am learning to see my beauty with or without hair, and I won't lie to you..it has been extremely hard. So I am very excited to be apart of this community..because for so long..I felt like i was alone. Now I see that so many are affected...and alopecia is not the end of the world. God Bless everyone who comes to my page.
Are you age 18 or older?
Yes
Your Website (Leave blank if you don't have one):
http://www.myspace.com/stephamika

Comment Wall:

  • Cheryl, Co-founder

    Hi Tamika, I am so glad you found us! I wanted to welcome you to Alopecia World. I can honestly say that we are a great community here and I hope you enjoy the time you spend with us.

    Cheryl
    co-founder

    Apr 15, 2008

  • rj, Co-founder

    Tamika, I'm so glad that you think Alopecia World is "awesome." There certainly are some wonderful people here, with some amazing thoughts and experiences to share. Just be sure to reach out as as well reach back. You will not be disappointed with the inspiration and insight you'll receive. :-)

    Apr 16, 2008

  • Cheryl, Co-founder

    Tamika, I can tell you that we all have struggled with alopecia. There is no shame in admitting it. Hopefully this group can help you cope, I find it is a great place to get information and support on just about anything you want to try. Or just to vent with people who understand. And for a little while in a day, you feel part of the majority and in a wierd way proud to have alopecia ;). Keep in touch. Cheryl

    Apr 16, 2008

  • Roger

    Welcome.

    Roger.

    Apr 18, 2008

  • Sonia

    Hi Tamika. It's hard to find other people who have the experience we have with hair loss. It is just recently that I have started to tell people about my condition. Now that most of my hair covers the bald spots I don't have to explain as much but most of my coworkers know about it. I find that by talking about it helps them understand and also allows me to feel better about myself. I no longer have to hide. So when they see a bald part showing they dont stare or snicker behind my back. They now tell me or move a piece of hair in place. We should talk about it more so it won't feel as though we are harboring a dirty little secret. God Bless

    Apr 19, 2008

  • Sonia

    I have teenagers as well. I have three boys ages 10, 16, & 17. I have been very open with them about my hair loss. When I shaved it all off in 2006 they thought I was crazy but the accepted it and ask a million and 1 questions all the time. When it started to grow back (every where but the back) I started to wear wigs and even took the oldest with me to pick them out because I knew he would be honest with me.
    Believe me I am not that open with everyone. Only the people close to me know the truth but I some one asks I do tell them.

    It is really great talking to people who can relate.

    Apr 21, 2008

  • Yvonne~Yhoney

    Girlfriend...we are all strong women when faced with the unthinkable. Some may think of alopecia as curse, but I see it as something you can draw strength from and see your own true inner beauty, build on it and share your gifts with others. Keep your head held high sister, you are beautiful! :)

    Apr 22, 2008

  • Sonia

    I agree that stress has a lot to do with it. We may appear to have it all together but deep down inside we are always worrying about something and it show up in our hair loss.

    Glad to talk to you. It's great to speak with people who can relate

    Apr 23, 2008

  • LeslieAnn Butler

    You are such a wonderful person.
    I hope you are finding some support here!
    LeslieAnn

    May 26, 2008

  • Linda

    Welcome Tamika,
    You'll be okay, you are not your hair...if you ever need to talk, send me a comment.
    Linda

    Jun 20, 2008