Feedingsparrows

Female

Delmar, NY

United States

Profile Information:

Relationship Status:
Engaged
About Me:
I'm 27 years old and I've been losing hair for about four years, though this last year has brought an acceleration of shedding. The hair loss is worst at my crown and on top of my head, but it's also diffuse; my scalp is eerily visible from either side if I pony tail my hair. I feel like my femininity is being attacked, and I also feel a (perhaps juvenile) sense of injustice that the intense stress in my life led to this CTE/ AGA when it was punishing enough in itself. I'm anticipating my wedding, and feel so fortunate to know and be loved by my fiancé, but I am loathe to plan the details of the big day (such as hair and photography) because I cannot imagine feeling beautiful, and it's painful for me to explain that to people who inquire.

That said, I do truly attempt to be positive. I'm trying to educate myself and to ask for the support I need to overcome this emotional hurdle. I welcome the advice and joyful perspectives of those who have maintained their sense of beauty through this challenging ordeal.
Do you have alopecia?
Other type of alopecia
Are you age 18 or older?
Yes - I am 18 or older

Comment Wall:

  • Kate

    Welcome FeedingSparrows. Love your name. Very gentle and happy. Getting involved in this space and reading the stories of others who experience hair loss was pivotal in me finding acceptance in my own circumstance. We are here to help.

    Dec 15, 2014

  • Kate

    Hi there. No, I have not shaved my head yet. I keep my hair pretty darn short, like a short curly bob, and I continue to use Dermatch daily. My husband and dear friends have PROMISED to collaborate with me and let me know when it feels like it's bad enough to shave, and so far we all are coping with current state. In fact what we do is really better than coping - its more like living normally and happily. Most people couldn't care less the state of my hair thickness. Friends like me for me, professional peers value my work for it's quality, strangers accept me knowing everyone has something different about them. I think my point is that after several years, I have come to realize the discomfort of the loss is only very impactful to me, and it is only as impactful as I let it be. I still love clothing and shopping and sewing. I love to imagine how I would alter an outfit if I were to wear it bald. That's a coping mechanism for me, to imagine a future state and see that it's not really so bad. :) Keep reading and engaging in conversation here. It is therapeutic to let your worst fears be known, to show yourself just as you are, and to see that everyone here is going through the same thing and most of us end up in a good place. You will too.

    Dec 15, 2014

  • Anita Donath

    Welcome to you!  Your story is awesome!  Keep your head up and your faith strong my dear friend!  I am not on here a lot - but will try to share with you when I am.  Love and Merry Christmas to you!

    Dec 17, 2014

  • LeslieAnn Butler

    Hello and a warm welcome to AW!

    How are you today?

    Dec 18, 2014

  • PamFitros@boldlybaldwomen.com

    Hello FeedingSparrows!

    In Michigan I'm feeding all sorts of birds by hanging  suet and seed blocks from the branch of a pear tree in my back yard. It's such a pleasure to see them all come for breakfast while I'm drinking my coffee in the morning.

    Alopecia World has so much to offer you. I am an active member. Is there anything I can do to help you?

    Pam

    Dec 18, 2014

  • itzmejudy

    Thank you for friend request.  Every time I wash or comb my hair I get a handful of hair. I am always cleaning hair from my drain. I use to have beautiful hair and everyone always commented of how thick it was. I don't even have half the hair I use to. I have tried almost everything to grow it back and I am going to Dr. to get referral for to get shots in scalp to see if that works. You all are so brave in dealing with your hair loss. I feel like a wimp.

    Dec 18, 2014