Comments - i need a group hug - Alopecia World2024-03-29T12:39:38Zhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profiles/comment/feed?attachedTo=2022678%3ABlogPost%3A243684&xn_auth=nothanks for all the support. m…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-10:2022678:Comment:2454232009-03-10T16:56:56.098ZPathttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Pat13
thanks for all the support. my day went uneventful on monday. i walked in and said goodmorning as usual. i did notice he didnt try to make small talk. i will still continue to treat him like i did before his comment. thanks
thanks for all the support. my day went uneventful on monday. i walked in and said goodmorning as usual. i did notice he didnt try to make small talk. i will still continue to treat him like i did before his comment. thanks Hi Pat...
Just wanted to chec…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-10:2022678:Comment:2451762009-03-10T03:58:55.171Zlidiahttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/lidia
Hi Pat...<br />
Just wanted to check how your day went on monday?<br />
Keep your head up, and here is a hug from me...<br />
lidia
Hi Pat...<br />
Just wanted to check how your day went on monday?<br />
Keep your head up, and here is a hug from me...<br />
lidia I agree with Sandy 100%. One…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-10:2022678:Comment:2450932009-03-10T00:26:56.737ZAndiehttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/GApeach2009
I agree with Sandy 100%. One of the reasons why I love this site so much are the variety of opinions and viewpoints expressed. I may not agree with everyone, and others' comments will rub me the wrong way sometimes, but I am learning SO MUCH and gaining a better perspective about having alopecia. :-)
I agree with Sandy 100%. One of the reasons why I love this site so much are the variety of opinions and viewpoints expressed. I may not agree with everyone, and others' comments will rub me the wrong way sometimes, but I am learning SO MUCH and gaining a better perspective about having alopecia. :-) Here is a hug for you, Pat. I…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-09:2022678:Comment:2448922009-03-09T20:11:48.556ZNicolehttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Nicole44
Here is a hug for you, Pat. I run into similar situations all the time, but it is mainly compliments on the wigs I wear. A few people within my company know of my condition. It can be quite embarrassing when speaking of this issue in front of people I don't even know like that. But then again, I am able to embrace my beauty regardless of who is around. Some people just don't use the common sense that God blessed them with.
Here is a hug for you, Pat. I run into similar situations all the time, but it is mainly compliments on the wigs I wear. A few people within my company know of my condition. It can be quite embarrassing when speaking of this issue in front of people I don't even know like that. But then again, I am able to embrace my beauty regardless of who is around. Some people just don't use the common sense that God blessed them with. Good for you for standing up…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-09:2022678:Comment:2445492009-03-09T03:49:05.995ZLifehttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Life
Good for you for standing up for yourself. I understand how you feel. You have the right to your privacy and if you choose not to broadcast to rest of the world why you wear a weave or wigs then so be it. I am surprised your boss was so insensitive being a doctor but on the other hand, I myself have experienced comments that are bourne of ignorance. Often times people don't realize that you are not adopting a style out of vanity but out of what is a necessity for you. Perhaps when the dust…
Good for you for standing up for yourself. I understand how you feel. You have the right to your privacy and if you choose not to broadcast to rest of the world why you wear a weave or wigs then so be it. I am surprised your boss was so insensitive being a doctor but on the other hand, I myself have experienced comments that are bourne of ignorance. Often times people don't realize that you are not adopting a style out of vanity but out of what is a necessity for you. Perhaps when the dust settles it might be a good idea to have a face to face with your boss to ensure the air is clear. It might make you feel better and him as well, it sounds like he is really remorseful. Stay strong, you are a beautiful black woman. This is one of the reasons I joined this board, sometimes it seems like I am on this journey alone, as I know no one else with hair loss issues. It is refreshing to dialogue and hopefully give a hug/encouragement to someone who needs it. I hope you have a great week at work next week. Keep you head up :-) Pat, you are so incredibly st…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-09:2022678:Comment:2445082009-03-09T02:50:55.606ZPaigehttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Paige
Pat, you are so incredibly strong, as are others dealing with this condition. I agree with Rosy that your boss was probably not purposefully trying to embarrass you. He sounded like he might just have been genuinely surprised to find out about your hair. You did good hanging in there and not letting the situation get the best of you!!!
Pat, you are so incredibly strong, as are others dealing with this condition. I agree with Rosy that your boss was probably not purposefully trying to embarrass you. He sounded like he might just have been genuinely surprised to find out about your hair. You did good hanging in there and not letting the situation get the best of you!!! I have found that it really h…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-08:2022678:Comment:2444072009-03-08T23:36:41.383ZDiellehttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Dielle
I have found that it really helps to think in your head how absolutely stupid the people are that say these kinds of things. When I was in eight grade (senior in hs now) I was calld baldwin (for bald twin since I have a twin sister that has a full head of hair) along with baldy, bald-eagle, and others. It was only a couple of people and sometimes it hurt so bad that I didn't even want to go to school, but hten I just started thinking about how these people are not going to get very far in life…
I have found that it really helps to think in your head how absolutely stupid the people are that say these kinds of things. When I was in eight grade (senior in hs now) I was calld baldwin (for bald twin since I have a twin sister that has a full head of hair) along with baldy, bald-eagle, and others. It was only a couple of people and sometimes it hurt so bad that I didn't even want to go to school, but hten I just started thinking about how these people are not going to get very far in life in either relationships, work, or self-fulfillment because they obviously don't love themselves enough to love others and that made me feel better. Thoughtless people are almost worse than mean people because they just don't think about anything they say because they are incapable of showing empathy (not sympathy), my grandma is one of those. When someone says something I just think to myself "wow what an idiot!" because they really are just so ignorant of what they are doing that it is shocking. Personally I have chosen to only show my head to close family-friends and my family because when I had friends that knew about it they felt compelled to try and say something to make me feel better like "oh it must be sooooo nice in the summer, you are so lucky!" when all it would do was hurt me because I didn't feel lucky. If I was you I would go into work and just act like nothing happened because he will probably still feel sorry for saying it but he won't want to say anything to you which quite frankly punishes him a bit for acting so ignorantly. There are always going to be stupid ignorant and mean people out there so you just have to realize that you are enough for yourself and stop caring about what others think, because there opinion of you is definitely not as important as the opinion you have of yourself. Hi Pat!
Oh yeah....I've been…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-08:2022678:Comment:2444032009-03-08T23:30:23.840ZAndiehttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/GApeach2009
Hi Pat!<br />
Oh yeah....I've been in your situation before. I had a co-worker ask me in front of others if I wore a wig. I was already having a bad day on top of that, so I got REALLY upset. The co-worker did apologize, and in fact some of my other co-workers apologized for his behavior as well. I don't mind if others inquire about my wig, as long as it is just between us. There is nothing wrong with being a private person and choosing to share your alopecia with whomever you feel comfortable, but I…
Hi Pat!<br />
Oh yeah....I've been in your situation before. I had a co-worker ask me in front of others if I wore a wig. I was already having a bad day on top of that, so I got REALLY upset. The co-worker did apologize, and in fact some of my other co-workers apologized for his behavior as well. I don't mind if others inquire about my wig, as long as it is just between us. There is nothing wrong with being a private person and choosing to share your alopecia with whomever you feel comfortable, but I do understand Rosy's point of view as well - alopecia is nothing to be ashamed of, and it does get difficult trying to hide it. But some of us (myself included) are just not ready to take those steps yet, even if you have had alopecia for years. It is what I am definitely striving for, but to be reached at my own pace and time.<br />
Your boss was downright rude and you were humiliated, but you stood up for yourself and we are all proud of you! thanks for the support and al…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-08:2022678:Comment:2443272009-03-08T21:27:35.944ZPathttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/Pat13
thanks for the support and all of the encouragement! i love this site! sandy you are so right, alopecia is not an easy condition to have. rose marie its not about trying to keep a secret. its about a medical condition that i choose at this time not to discuss with my coworkers, no more than if some had a thyroid disorder, anemia, crohns disease,diabetes or heart disease. i am sure we all work with people who have some type of medical condition but do they all feel the need to educate us on…
thanks for the support and all of the encouragement! i love this site! sandy you are so right, alopecia is not an easy condition to have. rose marie its not about trying to keep a secret. its about a medical condition that i choose at this time not to discuss with my coworkers, no more than if some had a thyroid disorder, anemia, crohns disease,diabetes or heart disease. i am sure we all work with people who have some type of medical condition but do they all feel the need to educate us on arthritis? and if they dont feel the need to talk about gout do you feel like they are shuting you out? i know that it was not his intention to hurt me, but some times people do need a sensitivity check. i have worked at the practice dfor some time now and i know him. he has a very bad habit of saying things that arent appropriate with every one including the patients. you are probably right-no one i work with will probably bring the subject up again. i am fine with that. some things i just choose not to discuss with them. maybe that will change but right now-not.thanks everyone for the hugs!! you guys are the best! ((((((((HUG)))))))) You did v…tag:alopeciaworld.com,2009-03-08:2022678:Comment:2443092009-03-08T20:44:31.312ZGalvinhttps://alopeciaworld.com/profile/JamesTGalvin
((((((((HUG)))))))) You did very well. I had a alopecia incident once at the office and took the rest of<br />
the day as a vacation day. You did better than me. :)
((((((((HUG)))))))) You did very well. I had a alopecia incident once at the office and took the rest of<br />
the day as a vacation day. You did better than me. :)