A guide to hooking your young man, and keeping him

Not unexpectedly, after five minutes on this site the sex card was played “It’s different for women.” It’s only a matter of time before someone also plays the age card “It’s harder when you’re young!”

So let’s for arguments sake imagine that both statements carry some truth and imagine a bewigged young lady out on her first date.

She’s a little nervous, she wants to look her best, she wants to be open and honest (up to a point), but it’s her business alone that she’s bald, and so why should she have to declare this on day one? She’s right of course, but at the same time it’s best not to accidentally slip into the secrecy trap which more and more sucks us into its sticky web the more time progresses – if further dates ensue.

It’s awful to find that after a significant period of time has elapsed, and positive emotions have deepened, to worry about losing a beau on declaring that you have hair problems.

Here’s how to avoid that trap, which many fall into:

Montgomery: “Wow babe you look great! Love the dress.”
Shelia: “Thanks? Do you like my hair?”
Montgomery: “Yeh, wicked. You’re dope.”
Sheila: “Thanks. Just bought it. I really think it suits me.”

Ideally leave it until date 2 (or 3) (but not too long) before casually mentioning that you’ve got a hair problem. But try to make light of it. Go into detail if asked, but don’t take off your crowning glory until you almost feel comfortable doing so.

If he’s going to run then it’s best that he runs early as you have enough on your plate without adding to it with a serious romantic upset.

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Permalink Reply by Jera on June 23, 2013 at 8:06pm

Check out the excellent "Third Date Rule" written by Debbi Fuller a few years ago.

Permalink Reply by GutsyGirl on July 1, 2013 at 6:13pm

Ivan,
I've thought to myself that when on a first date, if it was going poorly, I could just excuse myself to the restroom and put on a totally different-looking wig, then come back to the table and wait to see if he notices and what happens next. I mean, it might freak him out and then I'm free of Mr. Wrong. Not sure I'd do that if the first date was going well, but it's certainly an entertaining thought for a not-so-great date and definitely something I'd do because I'm in for a good joke now and then.

Honestly, however, if I'm really into a guy (which I'd probably have to be to even go on a date in the first place), I'd probably just swing it bald since that's how I go around at home and in public about 90% of the time. After all, he's gotta deal with my wheelchair anyways and if that hasn't already deterred him, what's a bit of baldness on a bada** wheelchair chick anyhow? ;D

Regarding the gender card being pulled, I'm not sure it's either necessary nor courteous to pull that card, even when the card-puller believes it to be true. Thanks for shedding light on this, and I'll try to be more conscientious about how I speak my mind regarding this as well.

Gutsy Girl

Permalink Reply by Maureen on July 21, 2013 at 11:32am

GG,

That is sooo hilarious! What a great practical joke that would be to pull ;)

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