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Permalink Reply by Rose Marie' on June 27, 2012 at 4:06pm

To wear a head covering is a personal choice. Like with everything there are outcomes no matter which way you choice to go. Some good some challenging, no matter which choice you make neither make alopecia go away.

Many ladies here prefer to not wear any type of head covering and this suits them and the way they prefer to live. Of course there are also many who prefer to present themselves to the world with hair.Neither of these choices is any more or any less noble - just what suits you personally - both ways you can look fabulous.

I've discussed this choice with my daughter on many occasions so I will pass on her and my personal thoughts about this.

For my daughter to present herself to the public without hair became a hassle - she gets frustrated by the constant questioning and staring (even though these are mostly done with kindness)she finds it intrusive as she doesn't like to stand out because of her alopecia, she likes people to get to know her for who she is not what this condition has caused. She doesn't really feel like celebrating it - she's not angry or cross - more accepting and getting on. She likes to present herself with hair as that was how she was before this condition came into her life. She is open about her hairloss with those she feels comfortable with. Her hairloss is really a bit of a non issue for her. It really doesn't bother her any longer as she has made choices that suit her. (like with everyone though there are always challenges now and again with alopecia - wig or no wig).

To not wear a head covering requires the ability to answer the questions you will get and to be fully on board with being defined by your hairloss (at least initially - as of course people are more than their hairloss). To be open and forthcoming to questions and enquiries as I feel most are done with kindness and care (as I said before) and if kindness isn't the motivation for a comment be ready with responses that lift you and put them in the place they deserve to be.

To wear a good hairpiece is the other alternative. For my daughter this gives her time to assess those around her letting her have the time to meet people without being defined. I have always encouraged and continue to do so with regards to letting people know, when she feels its right, that she has no hair. This isn't a problem for her as she often wears different style wigs and will get the inevitable questions. She answers with positive clear educational answers.

There are pluses and negatives for both choices, you need to pick which suits you the best.
No matter what you pick you will always be the lovely person you are.

Rosy

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