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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on February 12, 2011 at 10:57pm

We were not born alone. We really are NOT rocks or islands, despite what Simon and Garfunkel say. So, since others are born, born, born and societies have existed all over the world, for thousands, maybe millions, of years...then we are meant to learn how to fit into them. What you present to the world is what you get...so, where is your smile? Everyone looks attractive with a smile on the face.

If you are here, you were made and meant to be! That alone is worth an inner smile. A boss once told me that people like people who like them. How do YOU reach out to show others what you like in THEM? Forget yourself for awhile...and compliment others, bring a favorite beverage to a coworker's desk as a thank you for something. Write to an old friend and recall a time that person did or said something cool. Create poetry and art that is NOT negative, and enter the best ones in contests or read at groups. There are many movies that promote changes in life and attitude: ask your video store which those are. Ministers or church/faith groups can help, as long as the people in them are not judgmental or pitying. To help with the latter, put a hat on for the initial meetings until you scope out how people feel about differences...then take it off for a few at lunch, then more and more as they get to know YOU instead of just your scalp.

And never leave yourself jobless: do what you need to to keep a job...even smile, or wear a hat...because you need to eat. The free groups are churches and things provided by parks and recreation departments or arts councils, or the city. Look in your newspaper, listen for news on the radio of free concerts. There are many people to meet in the world...if you find fault with ALL of them, then maybe you are having the problem within. If you believe in God, you cannot possibly think that He/She put all those people out there on purpose to NOT like you! Go find the hidden ones destined to be your friends or future coworkers (be sure to tell people your skills once the conversation turns to work, and let them know you are looking. Only speak positively about yourself!)...with a smile on your face. A smile is the invitation to talk more.

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