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Called out on my Wig
So today is the second day of school. I used to have medium length brown hair but now I have long blonde hair because of the wig I started wearing. I was so confident in the weeks leading up to school that it looked like my normal hair but today someone called me out on it. I was talking to my gym teacher and she kept staring at me. I asked her what's wrong and she kept saying "it's a wig". I was standing next to my friend who didn't know about my alopecia and my face started turning red. I kept denying it and changing the subject. I am a senior in high school and I just want to live a normal high school life. I don't anyone to know about my alopecia because they are so judgmental. They would look at me different and stare and I thought that my wig looked natural until today. Should I talk to my gym teacher tomorrow and tell her about my alopecia? And should I tell my friends about it? Idk what to do. I was so confident but now I'm afraid that everyone knows that it is a wig.
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Permalink Reply by Dollhead on
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Oh, Honey!!!! That must have been horrible! I 'm torn on what to say here. I have had AA and have worn wigs since I was 10 (I'm 55 now) so I hid it the whole time I was in school - or so I thought in some instances. My first gym class after I started wearing my wig, we had changed the gym clothes to T-shirts and shorts. I'm of the generation who had to wear those awful gym romper-type things (the last generation to do it, thankfully!), so they zippered down the front so you could step into them. Well, you can't do that with a T-Shirt, and I had no idea how I was going to get out of the T-Shirt without my wig shifting. I was the last one changing (obviously!) and the gym teacher came in and hissed "listen, I don't know what your problem is and that thing on your head, but hurry up and get dressed and get to class!" and I just knew she was talking about my wig. I went to Catholic school so not only was I in danger of people finding out about what was on my head, if I didn't get a move on and get dressed and to class, I was going to end up in the principal's office and have to explain why I was taking so long to get dressed. My mother told me that I could not ever let anybody know that I was wearing a wig because people would make fun of me, call me a freak, etc. Thankfully I figured out a way to get out of the T-shirt without my wig shifting, but when I got home, I dressed and undressed several times to make sure that what had happened wouldn't happen again.
I don't know what made this teacher think that she could invade your privacy and try to embarrass you by calling out your wig. What's on your head is your business, and who you want to tell and let know is your choice and your business. Act like you don't hear her, and just keep on keepin' on as they used to say. Just make sure your wig is on tight and secure, and live and enjoy your senior year! And honestly, I wouldn't say anything about it to your gym teacher because she seems like the type who isn't all that discreet and who can't keep her trap shut. She may decide to blab it out during gym class! Good luck! (((HUGS))))
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my God. people can be so cruel and teachers are no exceptions.
do what feels right for you. if she is doing it again then bring this to your principal or to the teacher directly. she has no right to say this especially in front of other people.
hugs
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Permalink Reply by hagster on
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I would go to the school principal (with or without my mother) and tell them about alopecia and explain the incident with your gym teacher. Then have the principal handle the gym teacher in private.
If this does not work, you or your parent can also contact the school superintendant, the school board, or a school ombudsman - asking for help for yourself and others in similar situations while remaining anonymous. What the teacher did was a form of harrassment and should not be tolerated. If you do not stand up for yourself, nothing will happen to change the situation and the teacher will continue belittling whomever is handy.
Who is her last victim, or who will be her next one? The girl with no breast development? The boy with a crossed eye? The child who gets their school lunches for free? The teen with crooked teeth?
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Permalink Reply by Elaine on
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I'm so this happened to you. I had the same thing happen to me before. But I wasn't a senior in high school. This has to be so much harder at your age. I'm sure people when I was in high school may have noticed mine but never called me out. (I've had alopecia since I was 8)
When it happened to me I did tell the person about it so they didn't keep asking. She yelled it from across the room in front of a lot of coworkers. "Nice new hair! But is it a wig?" I got all red said no really loud it's just hair extensions. I might not have explained it to her but even after the call out she continued to say it kind of looks like doll hair. So before she asked someone if they thought it was a wig (she has a loud month) I pulled her aside to explain. Some people have no filter. Good luck!!!
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Permalink Reply by sandy edwards on
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So sorry this happened to you. I can't imagine what I would do and I am old. I know that most of the hair I wear does look like a wig and sometimes people do give that extra long look. It really pisses me off too. I feel like pulling it off and asking "are you happy now". lol I know this doesn't help but look at how many people have things that can't be covered and go about their lives. Burn victims, or deformities, etc. and we have to think of ourselves as lucky. I know I sometimes still get down but I wear my wigs and screw them all if they don't like it. Keep doing what you are and feel proud.
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