Can't handle this

Hi, my name is Sonia and Iv just been diagnosed with Alopecia Areata. Back in July I found a small round patch in the back of my head. Went to my doc and he said its from stress. But in a matter of a month the patch grew much bigger and my hair is now so fine. I went to a dermatologist and he said its gonna get worse. So he gave me Regaine 5% to apply twice a day. I did that but it did not help and the patch got bigger and bigger. I know lost about 40% of my hair. So I went back to derm and he gave me a steroid pill called Solupred which I have to take once a day for a month and then I go see him again.
Im depressed, dont know if Im gonna go bald or if my hair will grow back. I cry every single day, sometimes even most of the day. Im beginning to think about quitting my job, which is in the fitness industry.
Please can anybody help me cos I cant accept this and dont know how to cope. I just want my hir back

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Permalink Reply by Jan Streicher on November 18, 2010 at 10:50am
Hi Sonia
I've has AU for the last 28 years and it has not been easy. It took me a very long time (18 years)to accept my "condition".I've tried almost everything and spend a lot of money, but only thing I did not wanted to do was to make peace with myself and face life.
To go through emotions is normal, but you have to be strong. Quiting you job is not going to make your hair grow back !
Please DO NOT QUIT !! ( unless you hate the job ,which I do not think is the case)
You may say " yes that is easy for you to say", but the best thing I ever did was to accept my AU. Life is not fare ,but it sure is full of love,laughter and happiness. Even if you go through it without hair !!! Friends are important. Surround yourself with positive people. Talk and make fun about your AA , it helps.
Cry when you feel like it, but remember to wipe your tears ,get up and face the world, no matter how hard it is. It will get better. I pray that Jesus will give you peace to carry on and remember you are not alone - He is always with you!!

All the best !!!!
Permalink Reply by Sonia on November 18, 2010 at 3:07pm
Hey Jan Willem
You are so sweet. I really admie people like you. I guess, given time I will learn how to deal with this. Right now, Im still where I was a week ago. Its hard for everyone to say, move on and deal with it. I guess maybe Im always hoping that myhair will grow back, but then I come here, and when I read other stories I sometimes get even more discouraged, because at the moment I just have hope, taking my medication, but here people say nothing works. I just dont understand, with all this new medicines nowadays, and all this latest stuff, howcome there is no cure for this. They tell u the folicle is not dead, so if its not dead, why wont hair grow??????? Oh God, im so confused right now, dont even know what to think anymore. Maybe I should stop taking all this crap and just let it be.
Permalink Reply by Lexi on November 19, 2010 at 8:30am
Sonia, I know how hard it is to cope. Believe me. Some on this site have had some sort of Alopecia or hair loss for so long, maybe they have forgotten what it was like when it first started. Maybe not, maybe just that everyone has a different personality type, lifestyle, support network, etc. Some of us have no support network, and maybe that is a big part of the problem, we deal all by ourselves. Everything works differently for everybody as we know. No one can say for sure that all the things you are doing will not work FOR YOU. It is your choice as to what path to take on this journey. I feel none of that works, and it is something you just have to come to terms with, and if it is meant to be that your hair grows back, it will be. It maybe then forever, it may be short-lived. No one knows. All I know is that it is truly devasting and at some point we must just come to terms with the situation, and make the best of it. If there is a BEST. We must tell ourselves, it IS only HAIR. It is not our eyesight, our hearing, our arms, legs, etc. We can walk, talk, function. We are NOT ill. We do not have cancer, or kidney disease, or some other health concern. It is really only a cosmetic thing. But for a woman, a very important cosmetic thing, such as everything else seems to be so important, more so for a woman...it is our lot in life, I guess. I wish, truly, that there was more awareness and the public had more knowledge of it. We hate the stares from people who think we are "sick"....we just hate the stares in general. We go thru this life and try to make it the best life for US that we can.
Permalink Reply by Jan Streicher on November 19, 2010 at 11:30pm
Hi Lexi and Sonia

First I want to apologize for my way of writing and spelling ,because english is not my 1st language .I have translate my thoughts)
What you say is so true ,Lexi. I was just a kid when it happend and in those days I only knew of one other person with AA. Starring and kids making fun of you ,was hard for me to deal with. Many times I just wanted to give up .I did not understand why . Why me ?? But we dont have all the answers and maybe it is a good thing. I met a wonderful woman ( my wife) and we have been married for 21 years.
We have to be grateful for the things we have. If you walk tru a hospital and see all the pain and sickness and "hopelesness" of some people, then I forget my problems and my heart goes out to those who suffers way more then I do. Then I say "thank you" for my hairloss.
I really feels pity for all woman and kids with alopecia. As a man it is easier to cope.
To all your woman (and men and kids) your are STARS !!!!!
hang in there, there is always hope .
Sonia, keep your chin up and give yourself a big smile !
All the best
Permalink Reply by denise anthony on November 21, 2010 at 1:06am
hi my name is denise im 40yrs my hair came out when i was 7 yrs. old..I can help i make wigs for sixty dollars and it will not look like a wig you will be happy ...by the way i live in california and we can work together through the mail.
Permalink Reply by Lexi on November 21, 2010 at 12:44pm
Denise...what ever kind of wigs do you make so cheap?? Do clue me in...human hair or synthetic? How do YOU make them?
Permalink Reply by dannii on November 26, 2010 at 5:09pm
Bless you Sonia, sending you a big hug. It is sooo hard when it happens to you that you think life is over. I have suffered with hair loss for few years now and I am only just about coming to terms with it. I am going to have a bonded system which stays on for about 4 weeks at a time so thats my saving grace. Hope you find the strength, but this site helps as you have so much support from everyone. Here for you :-))
Permalink Reply by Jan Streicher on December 4, 2010 at 2:36am
Hi Sonia
How are you doing ? I think of you and all the other people a lot . Just hang in there ,OK
Be strong ,there is always hope !!
jan

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