Embarrassed

Hi, I am a 17 year old in my senior year of high school with AA. I recently discovered two (now three) spots on the back of my head. Two are not as visible one certainly is. I have always considered myself somewhat popular in my school and with that I am always around and talking to people. That always leads to my spot being pointed out. It is the worst thing and I am always embarrassed and usually make up a lie on why I have it. For instance I tell most people it was a really bad hair cut. It's hard to avoid and I am becoming more and more self conscious about it. It is making me want to talk to people less and and could ruin my senior year. Not to mention I am a kid who likes to flirt with girls ,but what girl would want to go out with a guy who has bald spots on his head. If their is any tips or anyone who went through kinda the same thing has any tips on how to get through this it would be extremely appreciated. I hate feeling so insecure because I have have never been insecure before most of the time I'm an open book. Any help would be very appreciated.

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Permalink Reply by Katie on September 9, 2017 at 5:19pm

I am in a similar situation. I am a 17 year old senior too. I have had so many spots on my head that I have had to resort to a wig. I don't know for guys, but is there a wig or a topper you can buy? You can wear the topper or wear a hat. For me, my alopecia didn't get better and that is why I got a wig. You may develop bald spots in the future and you may not be able to lie about it anymore; getting a topper may also make school a lot more easier. When I got a wig, it made it much more easier for me in school. I didn't have to make up any more excuses or try to hide my spots. Also, don't feel insecure about your alopecia. Speaking as a girl, if someone likes you, they will see past your bald spots. It is nothing to feel ashamed of.

Since we are sort of talking about relationships in school, I have a question. Do guys mind if they are dating a girl with a wig? Is it still found attractive? Or is it a turn off? 

Hope this helped! 

Permalink Reply by Daw on September 11, 2017 at 12:10am
For the wig thing it always depends on the guy. Some guys never grow up and will say something rude but most people now days will see past it. Ever since extensions and things having fake hair or wigs have become kinda normal for girls. The right guy will see past it and like you not your looks.
Permalink Reply by Flwdbaseball on September 13, 2017 at 9:01am
Hey Daw,

This is exactly! How my senior year turned out. It was pointed out by a teacher that I had a bald spot on the back of my head my senior year of high school. I was also one to be sociable and be a more "popular" kid, and it made it extremely difficult after that. I tried different haircuts and especially with the apots on the back of the head, I always went as short as I could on the sides and back, maybe a fade? Kids in high school are cruel and don't seem to care about others feelings so I learned to just be really strong and stick by my friends sides that I knew would never judge me. As far as the girls, I'm now 26 so I have had AA for about 10 years and I've had multiple girlfriends. I'm now engaged and happier than ever, so try your best to stay confident as hard as it may seem and I promise you the girls will not be an issue. I always tel myself it's just hair and don't let it affect who you are. Good luck with everything
Permalink Reply by Suzie on September 14, 2017 at 1:19pm

So sorry you are going through this.  I, too, went through it as a sophomore in high school, 30 years ago.  It was devastating to say the least because I lost so much hair around the nape of my neck that you could literally see my neck through my hair.  High school years, especially your senior year, are so exciting.  I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress out because that is what probably caused the AA to begin with. 

There are many more options out there today.  Have you tried any hair fiber fillers like Toppik?  Have you also tried a dermatologist to see about steroid injections?  The injection are painful and your insurance will most likely not cover it because it is considered "cosmetic".  But for some people with AA, such as myself, it helped and jump started the growing process again.  I wish you all the best and try and stay positive.  I would also consider telling people what you have rather than dismiss it as a bad hair cut.  It is more widespread and chances are some of your friends probably have heard of it or know of someone who does.  Don't let it define who you really are....and enjoy your last year of high school!

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