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Emotional stress
Hello there,
I'd like to hear from you how you are coping with the emotional stress linked to alopecia. What I mean is: I have realized how I've become emotionally stress since I've been diagnosed with alopecia. Mostly, I don't want attention on me and I react, or maybe I should say, I feel insecure when I feel like I am exposed to people's eye.
Do you have the same experience? How do you deal with this?
Thank you,
Nat
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Permalink Reply by nappylee222 on
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Hi Nat,
I have been dealing with emotional stress and anxiety since AT has taken over. Even though I'm thankful that I'm still able to live life, it has limited me until one day I have the courage to walk out being comfortable.
Since it has started for me I try to put on a brave self and didn't confide to most ppl except a few. The few now seems as if there are never there. This totally makes me sad and with family I can't confide in them because my sister is pregnant. I don't want to damper the environment because of my inner struggles. The last two weeks have been hard because people at my part time job has been noticing that when I am in the office three times a week, I'm always with either a beanie or baseball cap. I work with mainly guys in the apparel/sneaker industry and they are young guys so one day one guy pulled the cap off my head. Thank lord the wig didn't come off. I wasn't sure if he could tell it was a wig but today I had a fedora which our weather went into the 80's. Immediately they started questioning me and ask if they could try my fedora and I said no. Two of the guys try pulling it off my head but I avoided them. I told them to stop but I know this week it will continue. I'm sure there are talks and question as to why I'm always with a hat and I'm not the ONLY girl who wear a hat. Yet I feel picked up and didn't even have the courage to stick up for myself. I welled up with tears. I thought about quitting but then I would just end up at home being depress. There are days that I feel positive and strong but lately the burden of carrying a secret is stressing me out. Def feel how you feel. Only thing is to hang in there. :)
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Permalink Reply by Nat on
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Hellooo,
I did not get the chance to answer earlier, I hope you feel better and you're having better days at work.
I am busy busy right now but I want to tell you that you this: don't give up. This place is great because at least we get to hear about people that share the same issue as us and many of our reactions start to make sense. I think that we're so afraid that people learn what is going on that in same situation, we are paralyzed. I think that those two coworkers put you in such a situation that you lost control and you're paralyzed because of the fear that the wig will come off. I was wondering if they do not cross same boundaries??? I hope you find the strength to set boundaries so that they don't get to touch your cap anymore. I know it might be hard because you're so focused on thinking of what is going on in the wig that you don't realize that those people were being too familiar. And I believe you don't have to answer any of their questions because those are private questions.
I know it is hard and don't blame yourself. It is a journey that you're going through, with highs and lows. I think time helps a lot,
I'll write very soon. Stay blessed!
Nat
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Sounds like you have the same spot that I have, mine started on my left side top at the back, I had my hair dyed and some blonde highlights put in and in Jan/Feb I noticed a quarter sized spot that is now a bit larger than the palm of my hand. I also had been under some stress at work, but I had a major tooth infection in December that I was sick from and on strong antibiotics. I have had 4 cortisone shots but the only regrowth is just in the spots the shots were given, and it is very little. I have been doing the comb over, and wearing hats. My son graduates from Grade 8 and they have a ceremony for them at school, I am considering buying a wig for that but I have no idea what to buy or what is the best natural looking wig out there in price range $100 - $300 and I don't want to shave my head just yet so I need something that is cool to wear over my own hair. I am 42 and my father and sister both have alopecia areata, my father lost all of his hair in elementary school but it grew back and my sister loses hers in spots and it grows back but the color comes in grey. I just had tons of blood work done to see if there is something that may be triggering it but I think stress plays a huge part and I got my problem tooth pulled 2 weeks ago in case that may have started the problem. Let me know what wig you go with if you do decide, I am lost when it comes to wig shopping but I have seen some very nice ones on voguewigs.com human remy full lace.
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I know a few people who lost their hair due to thyroid problems but it came back in thick after taking medication. I will check out that site and see what I can find. Thanks.
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Hi Tanya,
Welcome aboard! I would suggest to go to the doctor just to be on the safe side. I can totally relate to stress Bc I deal w/the same issue except it's more my sister and mother. Sometimes it's easy to say and hard to deal. But I think since losing all my hair my family has been calmer and trying to be supportive. I hope your son will see that as well. :)
As far as wigs, I'm still in the bubble trying to learn about then varieties. But I would have to say that I been watching YouTube and for me personally I want to see the wig in person and try. And I know majority of African Americans in NY is big into hair extension and wigs. Def very helpful w/ all their tips. I ended up going into a section that mainly sell wig cater to African American and man I was in awe. Price point is similar to online. I looked into ordering but was so lost w/all the details you have to input and it takes at least 30days to customize if you wish. Just a suggestion for future wig that you are thinking to purchase.
Wish you all the best.
:)
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That is awesome. You are so positive and I love your energy. So happy to be apart of this blog.
Nancy :)
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Hey Tanya,
I love your positive thinking! I hope you find a wig that fits well for you. And also, it's great to have great supportive people with us; my sister helps me when I have to choose a new wing. She'll come with me and try the wig on her head so that I don't have to take of my wig and expose my head. She's a blessing.
Have a nice Sunday,
Nat
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Nat,
Thank you so much for your response.
Things have been looking up by far but you know how it is.
Emotions fluctuates. Hanging in there and being positive.
I finally had the courage to confront my co workers w/out mentioning about
My sickness until I'm more comfortable w/sharing.
I am trying to keep busy so that way it gives me less time to think negatively.
And hopefully one day I'll see hair sprouting back. Fingers crossed.
Stay in touch!
:)
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Hey nappylee222,
Good to hear from you :) I'm glad you're feeling better and you find a way to deal with your coworkers in a way that makes you feel at peace. Keep doing that. It is a challenge and from my own experience, time is the key and learning to deal with the emotions. Have you heard of the word "appraisal?" I've learn from my psychology class this term and how to 'appraise" our negative emotions and negative thoughts so that they are not affecting us anymore, and find a way to replace them by positive thoughts and positive words, positive sentences. I'm training myself to do that... little by little. Hopefully, I'll get to a point where I can look myself in the mirror and be happy of what I see.
I hope your family situation is also improving for the best. Have a warm Memorial weekend.
Stay in touch dear,
Nat.
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