I know that is a strange question, but having AU for 3-4 years now (after many years of AA), sometimes I think that we could solve it if we really ask ourself WHAT and WHEN something bothered us so much so deeply hidden in our memories that caused this.
It's a bit hard to do it in the usual day with all the things we have to think about. But when we have holydays or a serious serious week to think into it I think that despite any health related problems that surely helped it we "all could know" what have been the kick that started it all.
Is there something in your past you know it happened maybe yourself wanted that forced yourself into acting not like you would have liked?
I make an example, like a alimentary diet? It's an example that help us to understand my p.o.v. but if you really force yourself into doing something you beleive it's right but you know it's not? I think that if there's an autoimmune issue so often we hear about nowdays, maybe it's there cause we involved ourself into doing or acting somway we should have been turned page before to solve it.
Like to have to accept a rude boss at work, like to often appear and stay clearly happy when you're deeply sad for any reason to not bother people or doing the exact contrary, or anything you could think about. I'm NOT talking about the word "stress" that nothing says us.

I often read that "I had it and nothing was happening.." "I was completely healthy..." "I was doing a perfect life..."... My question is... was it really? I'm asking, concentrating yourself in those far far memories are you sure that 100% of your life, one, two or three years before alopecia was perfect?
My opinion is that we are just like cars... Some cars are perfect even after thousands of miles, some are problematic at the start but the street we do everyday and the way we use it make a huge difference and maybe sometimes we press both the brakes and the accelerator not even knowing it.

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Hello Man82 -

Not too sure I agree with all of your theories here , but I'd be glad and answer some of the question marks you give here.


Is there something in your past you know it happened maybe yourself wanted that forced yourself into acting not like you would have liked?

DEFINATELY - and it still happens on a regular basis . If you can point me to a lifestyle where this type of instance does not apply , let me know . Last I checked , we live in a soceity where forcing yourself into doing certain things is mandatory. Unless of course one is very wealthy ..then "F" it all.

Like to have to accept a rude boss at work, like to often appear and stay clearly happy when you're deeply sad for any reason to not bother people or doing the exact contrary, or anything you could think about

ABSOLUTELY - AND IT STILL HAPPENS on a regular basis . I believe the term for this is "biting the bullet and taking the higher road " . This works well for me and eliminates the chance of unforseen nervous breakdowns and driving of a cliff.


My opinion is that we are just like cars... Some cars are perfect even after thousands of miles, some are problematic at the start but the street we do everyday and the way we use it make a huge difference and maybe sometimes we press both the brakes and the accelerator not even knowing it.

OR - sometimes we live our lives as if we were driving and texting ..... not paying enough attention to whats directly in front of us and overlooking whats really important.

- Peace

I don't think it's worth looking at why and can just begin a cycle of self-blame if you attribute it to something you are or have done etc. This is a disease like any other. It is not a stress disease it's genetically similar to Rheumatoid arthritis, type 1 diabetes and celiac diease. No one would probably question as much if they had one of those diseases, any more than the natural "why me?" with anything...... I know this may not help but I think focussing on acceptance will be a much happier place than delving too much in to the why's etc! I know I have a terrible habit of going over and over things but sometimes it's better to not let though thoughts stop us from moving you on. Wishing you good things whatever that is that is best for you! x

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