How can you still feel confident when you see people's negative reactions in different situations?

Hello everyone.

I am 31, with AU for almost 10 yrs. I always try to convince myself that this is not a big issue, I should be strong n confident, n be happy that I have a good husband n a few good friends.

But honestly I am not really satisfied with all these justifications. I know that my husband would prefer me to have my hair back, I am sad that I even can't tell my close friends about my alopecia.
I am tired of hiding, but still can't go bald outdoors cuz I don't want people make fun of me or laugh at me silently. I even don't want their pitying look.

How can I be confident outdoors when I know my friends n relatives n the society will no more look at me normally if they see my bare head n face?

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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on September 7, 2015 at 9:31am
My solutions: avoid gossippers and go where folk accept others (artists, photographers, gardeners, Unitarian Universalists, hikers, scholars). Avoid places where people only care about hair or outer appearance. No bars unless you are with your posse and in a good, strong mood.

Get free eyebrow drawing tips at cosmetic counters or private make-up demonstrations, or online tutorials. Eyebrows move and dip to shiw expressions, even if drawn on. I use soft taupe eyebrow powder rather than harshly-heavy pencils.

Classy wigs, hats, scarves and jewelry, pretty lipstick. Avoid masculine clothing, unless you identify masculine.

Get a sense of humor about it, find an alopecia support group, love your loved ones more and show it more...without bombarding them with alopecia woes. Let THEM talk and lean on YOU. People besides you love to feel heard, too.
Permalink Reply by Mary on September 9, 2015 at 3:02pm

Thanx for your advice, Tallgirl. 

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