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How do I tell my boyfriend?
Hi everyone!!
So I'm 17, in grade 11, and I have been going out with this guy for a bout a month... He's a really good guy, and I feel like I should probably tell him about Alopecia because we both sort of see this lasting... But I have no idea how to tell him and bring it up and everything.. I know that if he doesn't accept it than it's probably better that I'm not with him, but it's still sort of worrying.. It's my first situation like this and it would sort of change my whole outlook on a lot of things if he didn't like me anymore because of this. Well I guess it would be pretty pathetic on his part, but still. I wouldn't be too thrilled.
So any suggestions?
Thanks,
Heather :)
So I'm 17, in grade 11, and I have been going out with this guy for a bout a month... He's a really good guy, and I feel like I should probably tell him about Alopecia because we both sort of see this lasting... But I have no idea how to tell him and bring it up and everything.. I know that if he doesn't accept it than it's probably better that I'm not with him, but it's still sort of worrying.. It's my first situation like this and it would sort of change my whole outlook on a lot of things if he didn't like me anymore because of this. Well I guess it would be pretty pathetic on his part, but still. I wouldn't be too thrilled.
So any suggestions?
Thanks,
Heather :)
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Permalink Reply by Sam Stone on
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I would just tell him straight up. Guys like when you are level with them...all the subtleties of women get confusing :). I would find a time to bring it up when not too much is happening around you and you both have a bit of time to talk through it, answer his questions. Dont keep it in the back seat and try to hide it. Any dude who is worth it will look past the alopecia into the person you are, and I mean, if he can't even tell that you have it, its not really a big deal, in my humble opinion :)
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Permalink Reply by rhiana leigh woester on
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Hey heather, I would say to just put it out there. Surprisingly, guys are pretty accepting. Atleast from my experience. I am 28 now but i lost my hair when i was 14. If he cares about you at all he will not care that you are bald. You are a beautiful girl and i'm sure you are wonderful. Let us know how it goes for you!
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Permalink Reply by Alliegator on
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I agree.. just put it out there. You are right, if he doesn't accept it than its better to not be with him. If you get a bad reaction, you will know to move on. I know how you feel. It isn't easy for everyone to open up about Alopecia to someone they are dating. I would tell him in private somewhere that you feel comfortable. I would try my hardest to not make a big deal of it when telling him so then he won't think it is a big deal. He will probably ask if you have been to a doctor or about treatments so just be open if he asks questions. You should check out www.heralopecia.com. Lots of women/teens have posted topics about this in the past. I would suggest you tell him sooner than later. Good luck!!
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Permalink Reply by Joseph Perry on
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I dont think you should be worried... If he doesn't like you bc u have alopecia then he's an idiot ;)
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Permalink Reply by Devin on
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Hey Heather, I agree with everyone here about being upfront and telling someone as soon as possible and if you are a little hesitant in telling him, how about sending him this Web address and your page and then he can education himself? Just a thought, either way good luck to you and don’t worry about it you’ll be fine.
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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on
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You have to do it if you are serious. You don't have to do it if you have agreed to just be casual daters. You should probably do it if he is your best friend. You shouldn't do it if he is a bully or condescender about any another human...you may be next!
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Permalink Reply by Angela Jackman on
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be straight up about it.... tell him in a quiet moment - AND forgive him if his first reaction is SHOCK..... IF he doesn't behave well - you are already doing the mental work about what type of person would be like that...
Go on be brave... I am sure you can cope...
ANGE x
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Permalink Reply by Heather on
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Thank you so much to everyone for all your ideas and support!!
I told my boyfriend tonight and he was totally sweet about it and I'm just so happy! Thank you so much for your help! :)
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Permalink Reply by Tim Irvine on
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Here's a way for you to get a reaction from him that may reveal his reaction without putting you both through the uncomfortable routine. Pull up a profile on here of one of the girls you have made friends with sometime when he is over. Call him over tot he computer screen and tell him this is my friend "Jane" and explain that she has Alopecia. His initial reaction will tell you a lot. However if he asks how you know her, it opens the door for the discussion on the subject. Maybe it's not the best way to do it, but honestly, if he sees the profile and makes fun of her, you will have the quick answer none of us ever want to hear. Either way, you aren't jumping in too fast, and it's not really deceptive if your intentions are to use it as a way to open up the conversation. Hope that helps, and good luck! Tim
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Permalink Reply by Haley Rae Kreis on
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Hi heather! I'm Haley I'm Also 17 and a junior. How I told my pervious boyfriend is " I need to tell you something & after hearing what i have to say it's your choice to stay or walk away. I have Alopecia which means i have no hair, i wear a wig. Now like i said it's your choice" Heather... he replied " Haley, I dont care if you dont have hair it doesnt change who you are as a person" If this guy is a really good guy like you say he'll accept you as you are and like you the same way with or without your hair (:
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