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New here! I'm trying to decide on head shaving
Hi I've just joined and this is my quick story. I found I had a small patch when getting my hair cut approx 6 weeks ago. The patch has grown and 4 or 5 other quite small patches are now growing. I'm trying to decide on head shaving. My wife doesn't want me to and is quite vocal about the fact. True, a lot of people wouldn't know, but I do and I'm getting fed up with trying to cover patches and the hair falling on my desk and in the bath. I'm glad to find a forum of people with similar issues and would love to hear any advice. Thanks, Paul
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Permalink Reply by Pault8084 on
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I guess its just the thought of such a significant change. Might see how it develops in the next week or so.
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Because the patches are getting bigger I haven't been back for a haircut because it will expose the patches more so at the moment my hair is awful anyway. Sooner or later I'll have to do something. Thanks
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Permalink Reply by Rose Marie' on
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Hi
This is a big choice and nobody can really tell you what is going to be the best thing for you to do.
In my experience head shaving can be an empowering choice but also one that needs a lot of thought as you are fully changing how you present yourself.
With patches you need to be aware that the patches and the places with hair will be noticeable even you are you shaved. (I see there is some ads on the side here about men getting these bits tattooed so they are not so noticeable).
Good luck with your decision.
Rosy
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Thanks Rosy. I am aware of there being some patches even when close shaved but they will not stand out as much as the holes in my otherwise thick head of hair. My 2.5 year old son always points and shouts hole. I noticed the ads on the side, a good option for people with prolonged hairloss.
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Permalink Reply by James t pimlott on
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Been down that road. It will take a little getting use to but shaving it is the way to go. Once people, and yourself, get use to seeing you bald, you won't have to deal with the uncomfortable staring at bald spots on your head. Not to mention how unnerving it is to have clumps of hair constantly falling out. Good luck and put your trust in God.
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Permalink Reply by amym on
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I agree with everyone that has posted so far. I will say that the limbo stage you are in now is my most hated stage. The indecision when I am in that stage kills me...should I shouldn't I. Every time I finally shave (it has been 3 or 4 times now of regrowth then fall out and shave) it feels like a sense of relief. I get a sense of control over something that is so uncontrollable. And, being a semi-control freak that is huge for me. But, as others have said, it is a very personal decision and you will see the patches with the bald head.
Good luck.
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I'd definitely have shaved it off if it wasn't for my wife's insistence that I don't. Thanks for the responses and I agree 100%. I want to be in control of this and not have constant reminder of hair falling on my desk. Also the hair I do have is so thick that the holes do stand out and there is no style to incorporate them. I'll keep this thread updated for anyone interested. Thanks all
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I'm definitely interested, and maybe if you show your wife this thread, or talk to her about how much you feel out of control with this disease and shaving it might make you feel more in control she may understand a little more. Of course I am assuming right there that you haven't said that to her. I shouldn't assume. My husband shaved his head in unity for me and I didn't think I'd like him shaved, but dang, he is more sexy to me with the shaved head. So, now he shaves it whether my hair has grown back or not. Not knowing the reasons for your wife's insistence for you not to shave makes it hard for me to give any more thoughts on the topic. But, maybe she feels it is more a sense of control if you don't shave it.
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Well it's still falling out! Getting more people notice my patches, at work and when out. Every time I discuss with my wife we end up arguing! We don't really argue about anything so it's quite weird. She's adamant that it's not obvious and therefore there is no need to shave it off.I now have large patches each side. Two patches on one side are close to joining. My hair is otherwise so thick so when trying to cover there is a big indent where there's no hair! It's not really getting me down but I kind of wish it would all just fall out so I know where I am with it.
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Permalink Reply by Electrox_Kicks on
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I developed alopecia areata in June of this year. I initially felt a small bald patch on the crown and within 3 weeks 75% of my hair had fallen out. When it reached the 50% I just picked the clippers up and started shaving, without really giving it any though. It's empowering.
I am quite fascinated my the patterns that it leave on scalp; I could go as far as saying their beautiful.
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Further, you will find that the majority of people are kind!
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