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Permalink Reply by Martin on February 26, 2011 at 11:21am

The hardest part about coping is just dealing with the fact that "this may be it, nothing is going to change." Once you can manage that "tomorrow will be the same" and the "day after will be the same," you will be better able to manage with today. But if how you think today and how you deal with it today is just to get to tomorrow, as in just getting by, then the weight of coping will always be heavier. You literally just have to accept and move on, like its not a big deal, and once you do that, it is amazing how the little things that had been bugging you before, just sort of disappear.

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Permalink Reply by Nicole P. on February 26, 2011 at 8:25pm

Thank you for the advice! I really hope i can get to that point someday. I'm just starting to realize im not alone. and it has helped me alot to talk to other people going through the same thing. so i hope can accept it soon :)

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Permalink Reply by Martin on March 4, 2011 at 9:10am

Anytime . . . the best way to manage is simply to talk about it. The forum here allows you to be open and to forget about hiding. Just ask questions; we all have been through it and have sincere advice.

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Permalink Reply by Nicolle joi houseman on February 26, 2011 at 11:45am

Hi Nicole, i am in exactly the same position you are, have been able to 'hide' spots, but in the past few months it has become increasingly worse. I have bought wigs but the thought of anyone i know finding out what i am dealing with and knowing i have a wig on is something i am just not ready to deal with. It would not be so bad if i did not have to work everyday, then i could hide in my house, but i have to work! I am not at that place that some are with 'bald is beautiful', because a womans hair at least for me was the only thing i had that meant anything to me. I need help with this too like you.

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Permalink Reply by Nicole P. on February 26, 2011 at 8:23pm

Hi! i know i feel like hair is one of the most important things to a girl. and knowing that there"s a good possibility i could lose it all is really scaring me. but honestly i like my wig i think it looks really pretty and i kinda like not having to fuss with my hair anymore. it use to take me hours to do my hair just the right way to hide my spots. so its nice not having to stress about that anymore. but I'm just so horrified about people finding out and what they will think. Maybe we could help each other :) I'm here to talk anytime. i find it has really helped me to talk to people that are going through the same thing.

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Permalink Reply by Mary on February 26, 2011 at 12:09pm

Hi Nicole and welcome! You're going to love Alopecia World!

Check out my page for what I've done. It works for me, but I know it's not for everyone.

Take care,
Mary

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Permalink Reply by Tamika Joseph on March 22, 2011 at 11:39pm

i been coping since i was five. I t still hard to talk about it wwith other people you dont know well. but iam coming out slowly with this with co workers. I dont rember my true color of my hair since lost it at 5. My momgo out find me wig with different color every time she goes out and i buy the color i like .I go to work and see the reaction my coworker will have. It is always good no matter what i wear. I like to talk to people with the same issues to . this is the first time i get to talk to some one like this.

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