Treated me like a dog with mange!

I just flew out to see my favorite sister - the one closest in age to me, and I am SOOOO sad and disappointed.  She treated me like I was dirty, or diseased and contagious.  I explained all about alopecia before I went, but she still wouldn't hug me, wouldn't borrow my sweater, wouldn't even touch me!  Anyone else experience this reaction?  And what did you do about it?

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Permalink Reply by Mark on December 21, 2015 at 3:04pm

Hi, Beth. 

You have gotten a lot of views and replies to this.  So, if I am being redundant, forgive me.  You need to tell your sister how she made you feel.  We cannot control the actions of others.  We can only control our own. You do not, however, have to give her a pass on the way she treated you.  Let her know as nicely as you can that it was offensive and hurtful.  This may not make a difference, but at least you gave her something to think about.  The most important thing is for YOU to accept you the way you are.  You are wise to come here for support.

Happy Holidays!

Mark

Permalink Reply by Debwp on December 23, 2015 at 3:25pm

Try not to take it on board, the person is extremely ignorant and not worth knowing, unbelievable.  Be kind to yourself and end the time you spend with this person as she will only drag you down.  Take care, love yourself through God's eyes only........he looks into the heart and loves us unconditionally.

Permalink Reply by Lexi on December 23, 2015 at 6:08pm

Just a thought.  Does she possibly have OCD in some form?  It may not really be all her fault in treating you that way.  It could be that something in her brain just won't allow her to accept you.  She can have OCD and it manifests itself in varying ways with each person.  Everyone is different.  Trust me, I know.  I have it.  People just wouldn't understand, and in some aspects, it is also hard for me to understand why I can do some things, but can't do others.  I totally understand some aspects of it, but some of it makes no sense to me either.  It is what it is.  Just think about that one for a bit.  It may not be her fault.  It may be in her mind that she cannot accept you.  Maybe have a talk with her and ask that of her. 

Permalink Reply by hoofpick on January 16, 2016 at 10:40am

This doesn't solve all the feelings but this song sure helped me through this, played this when I was feeling down, Thank You Katy Perry!

"Roar"

I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath
Scared to rock the boat and make a mess
So I sit quietly, agree politely
I guess that I forgot I had a choice
I let you push me past the breaking point
I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything

[Pre-Chorus:]
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Get ready 'cause I've had enough
I see it all, I see it now

[Chorus:]
I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
'Cause I am a champion and you're gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
'Cause I am a champion and you're gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
You're gonna hear me roar

Now I'm floating like a butterfly
Stinging like a bee I earned my stripes
I went from zero, to my own hero

[Pre-Chorus:]
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Already brushing off the dust
You hear my voice, you hear that sound
Like thunder gonna shake the ground
You held me down, but I got up (HEY!)
Get ready 'cause I've had enough
I see it all, I see it now

[Chorus:]
I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
'Cause I am a champion and you're gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
'Cause I am a champion and you're gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
(You're gonna hear me roar)
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
(You'll hear me roar)
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
You're gonna hear me roar...

Ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar, ro-oar

I got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire
'Cause I am a champion and you're gonna hear me roar
Louder, louder than a lion
'Cause I am a champion and you're gonna hear me roar
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
(You're gonna hear me roar)
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
(You'll hear me roar)
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
You're gonna hear me roar...
Permalink Reply by Debwp on January 16, 2016 at 8:01pm

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