Hey everyone! I wanted to start a discussion on being single. I've had alopecia areata since I was 3 years old. I was able to hide it up until I was in my first semester of college. I started to lose my hair drastically and decided to get a wig while on Christmas break. Then about 1-2 years later I started to lose my eyebrows and had them tattooed on. Only my close friends and family knew about it when I was younger. However, I am now pretty open about telling anybody when I feel the need to. I am almost 25 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. I'm afraid of being alone for the rest of my life. I tend to be shy at times, which I believe was brought on by alopecia. I was diagnosed with social anxiety when I was in middle school, but I feel I have overcome some of it and am more outgoing. It has been so hard lately because a lot of my friends are engaged or married. It's hard to talk with friends sometimes because I've never been able to experience love like they have. I've started to feel better about myself because I've been losing some weight, but I'm still scared that I will never find anyone. I have actually never been to a NAAF conference, but plan on going to the one this summer for the first time. I think it will help me deal with some of the emotions I have been experiencing and gain support. I am very lucky because I have a supportive family. I just wish someone could view me as beautiful inside and out. I'm just wondering if anyone can offer some advice or words of encouragement. Thanks:)

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Well, if you are shy, it helps to join a group where the fun is active or adventurous, because then you always have those activities or scenes to discuss and laugh about in the future. The people wearing the hiking hats, bike helmets or work caps all will look the same, and it will be the activity and friendships that get remembered, not the hair. Habitat for Humanity, charity work, teaching overseas, service sorority, camp counselor for Alopecia kids' camp, etc. are possibilities...especially if coed. Friends doing things in groups are safe, and friends will introduce you to their relatives and neighbors, as long as you don't hide your light under a bushel. Find people who have more to do in life than sit around and talk about relationships so you won't get frustrated or sad. Besides...that gets redundant, anyway! Do you have an alopecia support group you can travel to some weekend? Can you enter an art show, or help paint scenery for a production? I was shy, but got invited to many things because of my art ability in both high school and college (groups need advertising and posters...and music). What is your talent or skill? Is there an outdoor club or park volunteer group near you? Find the guys who share such things, and ask many questions about the activity...or themselves!

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