18 year olds & older please!

I lost my hair at 4 and was diagnosed with Alopecia around the same time. You'd think I'd have this down to a science by now (yeah I wish). I am now about to be 24 years old and have pretty much gotten over the shock and the jitters about the disease although I still do struggle with not accepting, but embracing it. Mind you, I've never had problems dating...just been really careful with who I dealt with. Yet recently, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he has seen the highs and lows of me dealing with my disease and still loves me and finds me beautiful however I am. Yet I have a hard time taking a shower with him and letting go of all my anxieties about my scarf or wig coming off when I am intimate with him. The problem is obviously not on but in my head, how do you adults embrace your disease and your sexuality? I want to feel bald beautiful and sexy...any ideas ??????

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Comment by Tallgirl on April 6, 2012 at 10:37pm

So, are his hands only on your head at all times in the dark? Just sayin'...

Comment by Melly_Matrix on April 8, 2012 at 10:39am

thank you Riana you are soo right about everything you said :) and tallgirl i dont really allow him to touch my head at all i push him away

Comment by Tallgirl on April 8, 2012 at 11:07am

Pushing a man away literally or emotionally never works to the advantage of the relationship. Maybe it is time to talk about this...especially after two years. Can you go to a couples counselor or minister to iron out both your feelings and his?

I, too, reeled back in high school when dating. I was too afraid someone would discover the wig edge and ask questions. But if you are going for an adult relationship, then true intimacy HAS to be part of it. How else could someone really be there for you if, say, a windstorm carried off your wig or you were in a hospital confinement? That guy would have to really know you to support you!

Comment by Ann on March 15, 2013 at 10:08pm
This is such a beautiful post. Im learning to deal with this and decided i want to video ...yep. We deserve pleasure in all its forms, too. Just have to find strategies that build comfort and let our partners know what we're going through.
Comment by MaddiiBoo on March 15, 2013 at 10:15pm

He was with me through the hair loss. He watched me go through it. From kissing the initial bald spots, to kissing a head with no hair. I was embarassed at first, started off being intimate with the lights out etc, now I don't really care. I talked it out with him when I first felt embarrassed and then I overcame it. Alopecia is no longer a problem in our relationship.

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