Comment by MaddiiBoo on April 21, 2013 at 3:14pm

I think you feel he treats you differently because maybe you feel differently about yourself. I know after losing my hair, I no longer felt like the same person. I felt like everyone knew I had lost my hair and that I was bald! I couldn't even look people in the eye. But in reality we are harsher on ourselves than the world. I am slowly starting to return to myself. It takes time to realize that you're still the same person maybe even stronger. Maybe if you stopped feeling for yourself, your boyfriend wouldn't feel sorry for you either. He probably cares more about your emotional state than what's on your head.

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I hope you feel better soon.

Comment by Jade on April 21, 2013 at 7:44pm

I'm sorry you're down, I can partially relate bc at the moment I'm going through all sorts of emotions... I cut my hair boy short 2 wks ago after having very long hair most my life. My (latino) husband LOVES long hair and femininity. He looked at me different and I could feel this distance between us. I think he was just as shocked as I was that I did it. In my mind I thought we would never even get intimate again bc he didn't think I was attractive. It took a good week but when I started to accept myself the way I looked I noticed that he begin to accept my look even more. Now after 2 wks of short hair I've found out on Friday I may have Lupus. So I'm going through a million emotions and thoughts and fears. I know stress will kill me so I am doing all in my power to keep some peace in my heart. I know you are upset right now and feel alone and isolated. Try to keep doing things that make YOU happy and that make you smile and feel good. Don't get stuck in your feelings because then depression and a slew of other problems can occur. Try listening to something motivational to turn your mood around. We all have a choice as to how we handle the most difficult times in our life. I hope you choose LIFE, I (with tears in my eyes right now) want nothing more than to choose LIFE. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.
With love,
Jade...

Comment by Ella on April 22, 2013 at 6:58pm

I'm really sorry that you are having such a tough time. I can't really say that I know what it's like to just suddenly lose my hair, because I first lost my hair when I was three, so people just know about my hair loss, because I have always been like that.
But I can completely relate to feeling sorry for yourself, and I can also relate to the frustration that that brings, and to be honest, there isn't really a lot you can do about that until you start accepting things. For me, a wig definitely helped for me, because although I knew that I was different, everyone could only see me as normal. I know that wigs can be very expensive, and I don't know if there are any systems in the country you live in, but I know that in NZ there is a grant for hair loss, and the amount given is determined by age and the likelihood of the hair growing back, and this grant can be renewed every three years. Again, I don't know if there is a grant where you live, but I'm sure there will be organisations to help with the cost of wigs.
I hope this helps, and I hope you feel better really soon!

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