I performed in San Diego and Laguna Beach, California last weekend with a wonderful Bulgarian band now touring the country - "Bulgarika". Drumming is hard work, and at times I got hot - sweat running off my scalp hot - and took off my scarf. Then I'd get cooled down at times and put it back on.

From my perspective, if I had a wig on, I would just feel SO weird if I took it off and on. One moment I'd have hair, then next not! This happened to me a lot when I was trying to wear wigs when I first lost my hair in 2008. I just couldn't take a wig on and off. With a scarf, it's natural and easy (and I don't have something that looks like a dead animal sitting next to me.)

The room we were performing in was a large dance studio-type place with full wall mirrors. I could see myself the entire performance. The crowd of dancers could see me from all sides. Many of the Laguna Beach dancers hadn't seen me before. You know what happened? Everybody enjoyed the music, and no one cared about my head! I felt great. One guy I didn't know came up to me and told me (with a sort of surprised look on his face) that he thought my bald head was very beautiful.

I've posted three photos here:

http://www.alopeciaworld.com/photo/mary-with-bulgarika?context=user

The only way people will get used to seeing bald women is if they see bald women.