Dating advice

So I have read the horror stories on here about what happened when someone had informed their significant other about their alopecia. Since 2008, I have been inflicted with AA and having really done much dating until recently. I have been wearing wigs and sometimes it gets rough and frustrating due to some of the constant pain wigs can create

Well now I find myself in a weird and unfamiliar place. I am currently dating a great guy who seems to be genuinely into me. He has questioned me about whLOveether this is my real hair or weave. I informed him that it is weave (actually a self-made wig...but he has no clue of the difference...lol), but didn't really go into detail as to why I am wearing it. Now I need some advice....how long should I go before I inform him of my AA? Should I say something sooner or later?!?! My nervousness is I don't want to scare him off...because I actually like him...nor do I want to keep something like this from him and not giving him the option to know.

I like us....but I honesty don't know where we are headed!!!! My dilemma is what if I jump the gun and we don't last?!?! Anyone have any advice?

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Comment by leah on April 12, 2015 at 10:11pm
I agree time to tell, sometimes waiting right exact time might not happen and if on your mind better to be honest. I feel you is hard, but will be harder longer is and could get tougher of situation! Best to be clear on real you, would you want him to share something he has put off too? Realizing your beautiful and hes dumb if has difficult time with! ...and all Debbi's written! Thinking good thoughts for you w/!
Comment by Cindie on April 14, 2015 at 8:52pm

Being African-American, I know what "hair drama" we go through, and what drama others put us through.  Before I would tell him ANYTHING, I would have literature on alopecia available so that he doesn't think that you lost hair because you were "lazy" and "didn't take care of your hair."  I went through that "judgment" -- a very incorrect one, all my adult life, and know how painful those ignorant comments can be.

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