Comment by Tallgirl on September 28, 2011 at 10:04am

So, stop telling people that you've never had a boyfriend (yet). There is always a YET. Next time, smile mysteriously and say, "Ah, if you only knew!"

And correct them with your given name...then walk away, smiling.

Comment by cindy Babs on September 28, 2011 at 10:09am

hi amba. you sound and look like a very lovely person. it is easy to see you are wise beyond your years and beautiful inside and out. you are only nearly 13....in my opinion,
(sorry) too young for a boyfriend. who needs boyfriends and the drama that that can bring during teenage yrs that can be tough enough. on the other hand, there are PLENTY of testimonies on here from people with alopecia finding someone to love and love them. have faith in yourself. people love and respect you for who you are inside. live your life and try not to worry about what will be......everything usually works out for the best. sounds like you have a lot in your life to be happy about! :)

Comment by Laura on September 28, 2011 at 7:01pm

You know what Amba? I have the exact same fear. I am afraid that I will never find anyone. but every guy I have met and or dated never cared that I was bald or wore wigs. In school some of my guy friends would tell me that I shouldnt of bought one because I looked beautiful without one.

Friends and guys who wont date your or will call you names because you wear a wig, are not real friends, and guys you want.

Comment by AJ on September 28, 2011 at 7:29pm

Hey Amba!
Try not to worry about boyfriends. Believe me - most girls your age have never had a boyfriend - and there is nothing unusual about that! The truth is, you've got years and years ahead of you before you need to think about things like that. There's so much more to enjoy - having fun with your friends, music, films, dancing!
Each and every girl and boy at school will probably worry about ever finding a boyfriend or girlfriend at some point. I remember I used to worry about it loads - and I didn't have alopecia when I was your age. Everybody worries.
Do you know what though, I'm 29 now, and I do have alopecia now - and I also have a great boyfriend who isn't bothered about it at all. And if I could send a message back to myself when I was 12/13, I'd tell myself not to worry, because everything will be fine.

That's great that you're finding support at your school, and that your friends are accepting of your alopecia. Hang out with people who make you feel good (ignore all the others, they are idiots!) and keep being yourself. You'll be just fine 8-]

Comment by Tiffany Marie on September 29, 2011 at 2:19am

Amba, I understand how you feel about the boyfriend thing. But let me tell you a little story.. I once was scared that boys wouldn't want to date me because I wore wigs but more so I liked to go natural. I hadn't dated since I moved to my new city which was almost two years ago, and then I met the man I'm with today who adores me for me, wigs or not. When he shows his friends who I am he uses my bald pictures because he says "This is who you are and I'm proud to have such a beautiful girl."

I was your age not too long ago and and can say the boys you meet now will not follow you into adulthood unless you are very lucky. All you can do if be yourself and embrace the fact you wear wigs, and just have fun! People will always have their own opinions about you but as long as you think highly of yourself anything they say or think won't matter because you know your self worth. Someday you will meet a guy who falls for your personality first and your beauty second. Goodluck lovely!

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