Well "summer" is over. My daughter was home schooled last year. She thinks she is ready to go back to elementary school.
We live in a time when openness or "coming out" is accepted. This summer she gained a great deal of confidence. Going to public places without a hat or wig. She wants to go to 4th grade without anything on her head! We did manage to stay in contact with some of her friends from previous school years. She is fine without anything on head wile playing with them at home.
But school, is not the same as the grocery store. I have reservations about "exposing all" the first day. Maybe on the the third of forth day. Like a Friday.
As a father, I want to protect my daughter from any possible hurts.
Are there any adult children out there that has had any experience with this first day thing? Thanks

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Comment by LilyBell*Murphy'sLawLuvsMe on August 11, 2012 at 8:28pm

You may want to get in touch with Jeff with CAP the Childrens Alopecia Project - he started that non profit because his daughter has AT or AU - I am sure he could give you some very good 'real' advice. Best of luck to your daughter and may she have a happy and exciting new school year ahead!

Comment by Sue M on August 12, 2012 at 5:14pm

I would suggest she wear a cap or a scarf, maybe something with a fun print, or a local favorite sports team. When I was a kid, I lost my hair in kindergarten and in first grade the teacher told my mom that the kids were teasing me and suggested she get me a wig. Well, there weren't any wigs for kids in the 70s that we were aware of and I ended up going with a wig that looked like it was meant for a little old grandmom, gray curls and all. As I got older I was able to get better wigs, I gained more confidence in my appearance. It's a tough call, but if it were me, I'd rather go with a scarf or cap, for the first day. Best of luck and please know that kids are resilient. Get her on the swimming team to help build her confidence of what she can do, as opposed to what she can't.

Comment by Alayna's dad on August 13, 2012 at 12:07am

Thank you, Sue M. You are so right on. It is still difficult to find wigs for kids!

Comment by Alayna's dad on August 13, 2012 at 12:11am

Yes, thanks. I have heard of CAP. Florida has little to offer.

Comment by Chefpam on August 16, 2012 at 12:58pm

Just checking to see how she did. I have a 4th grader too and am a former teacher...I pray your little girl had a great first day....

Comment by Alayna's dad on August 16, 2012 at 11:34pm

thank you, we start the 20th. We Will see...

Comment by Alex on August 19, 2012 at 12:48pm

I remember being in your daughter's shoes. I was perfectly fine with being home or going out in public without a wig, but for whatever reason I could not go to school without it. I think that since she was home schooled last year, it would be less of an adjustment if she wore a wig/hat/scarf. It's hard enough being the new person in school, let alone being new and not looking like everyone else. Once she feels comfortable enough, she'll go to school without it. Just keep reminding her that she is absolutely perfect with or without the wig and that she is beautiful!! She will find out what makes her feel better and with time, will go to school that way, whatever it might be. I wish her the best of luck on an awesome school year!!

Comment by Rose on August 20, 2012 at 2:53pm

I think talking with the teacher and school pscychologist to make it an educational experience for the class might be helpful for her transition. If your daughter still wants to go natural and is brave enough to talk to her peers about alopecia it could be a very supportive, empowering and positive experience that would carry through her elementary years. The more her peers understand the more normalized. You must be so proud of her. Keep us posted.

Comment by gabydus on August 21, 2012 at 10:36am

i think she should wear a hat or scarf i went though this at school i wouldn't go without anything on my head children can be ready mean and horrible when young . try yo get the other children to understand and leaned about alopecia . your daughter is such an inspiration to have that confidence you must be so proud to have such an beautiful daughter

Comment by Alayna's dad on August 21, 2012 at 10:54am

Greetings, and thank you for your comments. We are in the Orlando area.
Well, the first day was the 20th. So comments are welcomed.
At the last hour before getting on the bus, she decided to ware a wig. It is her first year back to public school. It's the kids outside of her class room that scare her.
Yes, I do like the idea of the little, "notes" explaining the condition. Some people wonderd if she wanted to be bald as a hair style.


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