Comment by Gamer on June 10, 2015 at 9:17pm

hmmm, not cool.

and what you did in the courtroom ?

Comment by Chris Jeffer on June 10, 2015 at 9:23pm

Where are you located?  That seems very undemocratic. 

I went to a bar up at Whistler and they don't permit you to wear hats.  Every time I go I ask to speak to the manager and the last time, I just pulled the door man aside and said to him - 'have you heard of alopecia?" and he said yes and let me in.  I've never had a problem with it before.  Perhaps next time it happens you could say I have a medical condition and if they want to pursue it further, you can prepare yourself for a couple of different scenarios.  What you went through should never have happened - shame on them!

Comment by Dorothy on June 10, 2015 at 9:37pm

I know courts have a policy about no head covering and it has made the news due to muslims and their dress code and judges insisting no head covering.  I dare say a wig would not be noticed, tho when I flew last spring, I was afraid there would be a problem because the wigs I wear have small metal tabs at the ears, but nothing was said when I walked thru the xray machine, I was also concerned about my fusion cages in my back, but more about my wig.

All that being said, I would write a nice letter to the judge explain your situation, say you were intimidated because of the AA and a bit flustered and paid the fine in an attempt just to put the whole thing behind you, but you did not get the chance to explain your proof and feel treated unfair and your rights trampled.  You may not get a 2nd chance, then again you might.  Just be civil and polite in your letter and take responsibility for not standing up for yourself in the first place.

Comment by Debra (twin mom) on June 10, 2015 at 9:51pm

Although it might seem frustrating, sometimes rules are rules. My twin sons both have au and while I inquired about hats being worn at school, it simply isn't gonna happen.

Comment by Mom of 5 on June 10, 2015 at 9:56pm

Sorry to hear of your ordeal at court, that is so hard. I wonder if there would be any grace if you had explained.

I was asked to remove my baseball hat in a bank when I first lost all of my hair. I bursted in to tears, explained my condition and the bank manager was so kind. I have not had a problem since then. Hope you have a better end of the week!

Comment by ataloss42 on June 10, 2015 at 9:58pm

I understand the struggle. I probably would have done the same thing. I was on a ride at Six Flags and wasn't permitted to wear my hat, but I did remove it for the short duration of the water ride; only to plop it back on my head with it wringing wet at the close...Hang in there. I know the difficulties this disorder brings. I have always been a shy person and never quite confident. The hair loss has brought all of those feelings rushing back again-never quite feeling good enough or fitting the mold....I do believe the true problem is my faulty thinking. If I knew of an easier way to cope as opposed to hiding or being choosy of the activities I participate-those that are "hat friendly"....I'd gladly choose that path. Best wishes as we go day to day-tomorrow will be a good day.

Comment by Tuesday on June 10, 2015 at 10:07pm

I am sorry you had this experience.  I have Au and am visiting both a jail and a courtroom tomorrow.  I knkw they have a no hats rule but I called znd scarves are cool. Will report back. I am sorry you had this experience but tomorrow is a new day, too. 

Comment by Pam D. on June 10, 2015 at 10:14pm

That's awful. I was wearing a hat w/fake bangs when I went to get on a plane. When I was asked to remove my hat at security, I told them I had no hair. They were very nice and let me through. On a cruise, I went to get on the ship only wearing a hat (they were taking pictures for security); I told them I had no hair and would appreciate not having to remove my hat. They took the picture and I got to leave my hat on.

I was wondering if you told them you had no hair, or just refused to remove your hat?

Comment by Pamela Rosse on June 10, 2015 at 10:15pm

Hi Deejay, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I agree with Dorothy, write a nice & professional letter to the Court & explain you have a auto immune disease called AA. Explain AA, what you are dealing with. The reason you wear a cranial prostheses (wig) & scarves/hats. Give an explanation of the fear we have all gone through at one time or another. not having been in this situation before you felt intemidzted & paid instead of addressing the issue as you are now. You be granted second hearing or not, it's worth a chance. I wish you luck.

Comment by Tim Irvine on June 10, 2015 at 10:54pm

Stay strong Deejay,

   I know that must have been tough. I used to hide mine too and I had a similar incident when I went to traffic court years ago, they told me to remove my ball cap. I complied but I felt as if every eye in that packed courtroom was suddenly on me. It was a horrible feeling. In your time, you will come to terms with it in a way that is best for you. Til then, best of luck! Tim

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