Comment by Cindie on July 25, 2011 at 1:19pm

I agree...each person has to work things out in his or her own way, and it hurts to be "judged" by the very people you are turning to for support.

Comment by Bald and Fabulous AKA Terri on July 25, 2011 at 2:26pm

I agree...I have had alopecia for 28 years .... with regrowth and fall out over and over again. You need to grieve your loss as you would any loss. There is no time frame for such things.
HUGS TO YOU

Comment by lynne on July 25, 2011 at 4:14pm

Michelle i totally agree with you, people dont realise how hard it is to deal with, i only lost my hair 2yrs ago and my head hair fell out within 2weeks. didnt have time to even think about it. then the delayed reaction to the hair loss came months later and 2yrs on im so much worse, recently had regrowth nearly all and then it fell out again, i have struggled daily and suffer anxiety wen wearing my wigs, hate it and cant ever see myself accepting it. x

Comment by MiNAH on July 25, 2011 at 7:30pm

Lynn you do not have to accept it! What you need to do is stop blaming yourself for feeling as though you should accept it. You know it can take so much time. Nobody is expecting you to get over it on a whim. We all have diverse differences, and life experiences. Very different personalities, cultural beliefs. It does take so much confidence away from you, when each of us are at very different ages and growing stages in our life. Especially when society won't see hair loss as difference in a positive way. Through time, we can and will find the strength to become comfortable going without head covering, and if not it might take just a little longer for some. We all know, all to well the heartache when having to cover up. I did that for years, and honestly, when someone mentions "BALD" who is not a person with Alopecia I cringe, as it stops me in my tracks, bringing back past memories and pain. It becomes a window into my past struggles, and I am nicely reminded of who I once was. The other thing is, there's a big patch of dark hair on the back of my head, which forces me to shave. It's all over my head "A MAP OF THE WORLD". If I'm in a clothes store, and the mirrors show the back of my head, I feel this sudden drop of emotion and sadness. If I was with you, I would walk with you, be your support. I know if all of us were together, we could all be one an others strength. It's a good thing when the Conferences are on, and all those with Alopecia come together. Yet for most of us we are not close enough to attend, or our finances do not fit the budget to fly. Once a year is remarkable, and the BGDL lunch are also a good thing, and yet it would be better for those without hair to meet up every now and then on a regular basis. Unfortunately not every country has this type of support as far as the lunches go. There should be a link everyone can access to functions in their home town. Yet not every town offers this. It would be therapeutic for all dealing with fear and the social stigma of feeling inadequate because one simply has no hair. It only stands to reason one would experience stress or anxiety in a world where acceptance is something society looks at as though in some way hair loss on women and children is freakish and should be pitied....

Comment by Sunshine on July 26, 2011 at 8:48am

Life is change and change is a part of life. I wasn't born with alopecia and to have hair all my life and spend the last six wearing wigs made me sad and sometimes just angry. But I thank jehovah for the strength he gave me and wonderful accepting friends. Some will look right at you and you know they love and feel your beautiful just the way you are. Some will act as if they don't see you and that's fine too. This wigless women has grown as you surely will as time goes by. I love my wigs because they are a form of expression but this summer I had to take them off. This summer is really a life lesson for me. This summer I've learned. Just how strong I am and just how accepting and unaccepting people can be. Keep your chin up and keep growing. Beauty is in the heart because many are blind with eyes take care.

Comment by Calipso on July 28, 2011 at 5:08pm

Well said! I do often have my self pity days...I used to have them even with hair, but without them I just have something more to be sad about. Also I notice being jealous of beautiful girls for their looks...Thinking why isn't that me? Why she is so lucky to have it all and I've been robed of this opportunity :(

Comment by Michelle on July 28, 2011 at 7:46pm

Calipso, never for a second be jealous of anyone!! You are stunningly beautiful! Your actually the kind of girl I hate. (just kidding) If anyone can be bald and still look breathtakingly gorgeous, that is YOU! If I had your face I would rock my bald head with confidence daily. The oppurtunities for you have just begun. Sell that bald head and beautiful face. The oppurtunities are endless! You go girl!

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