I am a mom of a 5 yr old with alopecia, it has been a@ 10 mos since she lost everything and I still am going through "greiving " process. Although I don't let my dtr see it, and I believe we are doing a good job with her and building/keeping her self esteem up, I as a mom am having my own issues about it. As you know, alopecia effects the whole family. Remember, you and her are not the same person and she has not gone through this yet. Perhaps talk to your mom about how she felt when it happened. I can tell you that 20 yrs from now I will probably still wish that my dtr had her own beautiful full head of curly hair. If you push her away too much she won't feel like she can talk to you- and you should be the one that she can cry on and please let her do that and let her have her feelings, because she will have them whether you like it or not. And it will be helpful for her to get with other moms of children with alopecia. Good luck, and god bless!