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Comment by Jim Jensen on November 20, 2011 at 3:58pm

Wow. You are so stunning that you should not give this issue another thought.
I by no means want to make light of your fear as we all have it but you have been blessed with the ability to look GREAT without hair. That is a fact that is without question.
Use that blessing to free yourself of the wig worries and ENJOY all the other things life has to offer.

Comment by Chentil Changing on November 18, 2011 at 5:09pm

i have felt & still feel the same way you do. as african american women i think that a lot of importance can be placed on hair. i always was taught & believed that hair is a women's beauty so when all mine fell out i felt ugly, still do somedays. but it does get better. i havent gone full baldy besides places where i dont know ppl yet. it helps to start doing that first because it's a little easier to not care when its ppl you dont know. recently i wore my scarf to class, i almost had a panic attack doing it but once i got 2 class nobody acted like i was any different then normal. ive learned that many ppl are judgemental but usually the ones you care about accept you for who you are. try going with a scarf to the grocery store or something & you will feel great! it is such a relief to get some control back over your life! feel free 2 message me :)

Comment by Ilia Reed on November 18, 2011 at 10:50am

De nada, that's why we are here, going this route of baldness together, embracing the significant change in our lives and discovering the beauty of it. Hey, you will be s source of strength for others as well, welcome! A big hug ;-)

Comment by Angela Francisco on November 18, 2011 at 8:45am

You all are amazing people and are a huge support "Be Bold, Be beautiful, Be strong and most of all be yourself" I love it you guys have said things that I am really going to use to help me. Thank you!

Comment by Mary on November 17, 2011 at 10:54pm

I can't imagine how hard it would be to have lived with this for so many years, and to have been wearing a wig for that long and try to give it up. Brava to all of you who have done it!

When I lost my hair later in life, I realized after being miserable in wigs for 9 months that I just couldn't wear them. I'm OUT, I'm proud, I hold my head up and life has gone on. I really don't give a damn what people think about my bald head. This is who I AM and people seem to react like it's not a big deal if I act like it's just normal - which it IS, for me ! Here I am a few months ago dancing in front of about 2,000 people.

http://www.alopeciaworld.com/video/twisting-in-balboa-park

As I've said before: The only way people will get used to seeing bald women and not treat us like an oddity is if they SEE more bald woman, and the only way for that to happen is for us to get out there in public.

I'm sending you hugs and encouragement. You're a beautiful bald woman.

Comment by lovelyjan on November 17, 2011 at 10:11pm

You are Beautiful!!! Free yourself and become who you really are. I too was scared at first because.. we have a fear of who will accept us been a bald female. I decided this past May that I was not going to hide anymore and took off the wigs give God all the Glory and now live life as a bald woman. I have had AU since age 9 with regrowth at an later age and by the time reached 24 completely bald again and at 47 loving it!! The stress of people not knowing is gone.

Best Wishes..Be Bold,Be Beautiful,Be Strong and most of all Be Yourself!! Hugs

Comment by Lili on November 17, 2011 at 5:08pm

I hope you get to go out without your wig on soon... I'm routing for you. You're stronger than most girls ;). The spirit is what makes you beautiful, all children should be taught that by the people around them. I'm sorry to hear that your family wasn't supportive. A lot of models are bald and some shave their heads. You are absolutely gorgeous and could get into modeling if you wanted to! Don't let other opinions get you down, people are just afraid of what is different. I agree with everything Susan says, some people will recognize your courage... hugs!

Comment by Susan Innes on November 17, 2011 at 12:39pm

Angela _ You are gorgeous! If I had ever looked like you at any time in my life, the wigs would have disappeared. However, as Ailsa abgail commented, you can switch whenever you like. If the peers are making fun of you now, then not wearing a wig will probably not make the situation worse. Some people will recognize the courage and offer congratulations; every little positive reaction makes us feel better. "It's not the things that people say; it's not the things that people do: it's how people make us feel that we remember.:). (I'm sorry if this quote is not quite correct; I also don't remember where it came from but it held true for me.) ((Hugs)), Susan

Comment by Alliegator on November 17, 2011 at 10:48am

I have been scared too! I think so many of us have those same thoughts and feelings. I say take baby steps! It is all about the baby steps. I have been venturing out in my neighborhood bald on occasions lately. From what I have seen, if you don't make a big deal about it, others won't either. Strangers might ask you questions, but you don't have to answer if you don't feel like it. I saw some family this past summer that I had not seen in over 10 years. One night we all went to the pool, and I went bald. I didn't say anything to anyone about it, and no one said anything or looked at me strange. It was wonderful. If you would like to read my blog it is... lifeasabaldgirl.wordpress.com

Comment by Angela Francisco on November 17, 2011 at 10:47am

Thank yo so much. You all are right hair does not define you!

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