hi all,
this is my first time blogging too. so on friday i was having a very good day at work when the tables turned. we were all coming back from lunch when my boss looks at me and says in front of everyone "hey pat, do you know the first time i realized that your hair is not really yours?" so with everyone looking i stopped him dead in his next ignorant tracks. I said to him "dont you think that is a private matter and that what you said maybe embarrasing to me? And what makes you think that i want to discuss "my" hair with the entire office?"

i just walked away while he apologized and i left him there with his mouth open. so off i went into the bathroom and cried. i was so upset that i wanted to go home. i didnt think i could possibly work in the state that i was in. i must have stayed in the bathroom for what seems like forever.after i some what got my self together i decide i would come out continue my day and why should i be ashamed. why should i use a sick or vaction day because of someone elses ignorance. so out i came, holding my head high determining not to let others see the pain i felt inside.

i went to my computer and immediately emailed him and let him no how much he humiliated and embarrased me. i told him as if he didnt notice that i am a very private person and that i dont share my personal business with coworkers so what made him think that anything concerning me was up for discussion. i also told him that if he wanted to know or if he notice i always wear weaves or wigs and he wanted to know why, i wish he would have been a little more sensitive and asked me in private- even though i would have kindly told him to stay out of my business and get some of his own!

i really wanted him to feel as bad as he made me feel. so at the end of my email i told him that i have alopecia and that i have had this condition for quite some time and i am learning to deal with it. he is a medical dr so he does have some understanding of at least what the condition is. i told him being a dr he needs to show some sensitivity not only to the patients he treats but also to the people who work for him.he responded and apologized profusely. now i dont want to go to work on monday.thanks for letting me get it all out.

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Comment by Andie on March 9, 2009 at 8:26pm
I agree with Sandy 100%. One of the reasons why I love this site so much are the variety of opinions and viewpoints expressed. I may not agree with everyone, and others' comments will rub me the wrong way sometimes, but I am learning SO MUCH and gaining a better perspective about having alopecia. :-)
Comment by lidia on March 9, 2009 at 11:58pm
Hi Pat...
Just wanted to check how your day went on monday?
Keep your head up, and here is a hug from me...
lidia
Comment by Pat on March 10, 2009 at 12:56pm
thanks for all the support. my day went uneventful on monday. i walked in and said goodmorning as usual. i did notice he didnt try to make small talk. i will still continue to treat him like i did before his comment. thanks

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