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Many troubles over the months
I haven't been on in a while, and there have been some issues I've been having.
To start off, shortly after creating my account I found out I was pregnant. It was really tough to deal with that, my whole world fell apart. Everything I had planned, school, work, all my dreams were over. From there, things only got worse, I told the father, and let's just say he's not helpful. At all. He's lying, saying he can't be the father, telling people he's getting a paternity test, but he's been saying that for months and it hasn't happened. Then my mother got sick. She was my best friend, my everything and I'm pregnant and she couldn't help me. On Halloween last year she past away. Now I'm a single mother, my own mother isn't here to help me. While I was pregnant my alopecia seemed to have virtually disappeared, I didn't have a single spot, my one trouble spot, it doesn't seem to go bald but it's always thin no matter what I do, was gone. Something I never thought would happen. Three months after giving birth it all came back, and it came back with a vengeance. I went to my doctor to ask for a referral to my dermatologist in the city, but without any notification to his patients he has stopped seeing alopecia cases. Apparently being overwhelmed with them. Luckily there is a new dermatologist in the next town over, so I had a referral to him, and we started the kenalog injections again. Only this time, they don't work. 2 months later the spots are only bigger, and there are more of them. I called him to ask about other medications, he went through a list of all the other things I've tried in the past that didn't work and he mentioned a new one (he never mentioned what it was called) that causes an allergic reaction. When I told him how severe my alopecia was getting, he said it wasn't severe enough to prescribe me this new medication, that we should wait a YEAR. I have had to get my hair restyled to hide the spots, but my hair has a mind of it's own and many of the spots show, they're growing so big they're starting to form one. I called him again and mentioned this and he still wanted me to wait a year. Half bald is apparently "not that severe" compared to his other patients. But if my case is clearly only getting worse and kenelog injections aren't working than why do I have to wait so long? I called my family physician and have finally gotten an appointment else where. Unfortunately this means driving nearly 2 hours to the city again, but I hope this new doctor will be more understanding that not every patient is the same, that we all have different situations. My mental health while seeing the doctor close by was not very good. I was upset all the time and stressed out which clearly doesn't help. Since I've decided to stop seeing him I do feel better, and I hope this new medication works. It's been a tough 10 months (or so) but it's a constant battle all the time, and I just hope to find a permanent solution soon.
To start off, shortly after creating my account I found out I was pregnant. It was really tough to deal with that, my whole world fell apart. Everything I had planned, school, work, all my dreams were over. From there, things only got worse, I told the father, and let's just say he's not helpful. At all. He's lying, saying he can't be the father, telling people he's getting a paternity test, but he's been saying that for months and it hasn't happened. Then my mother got sick. She was my best friend, my everything and I'm pregnant and she couldn't help me. On Halloween last year she past away. Now I'm a single mother, my own mother isn't here to help me. While I was pregnant my alopecia seemed to have virtually disappeared, I didn't have a single spot, my one trouble spot, it doesn't seem to go bald but it's always thin no matter what I do, was gone. Something I never thought would happen. Three months after giving birth it all came back, and it came back with a vengeance. I went to my doctor to ask for a referral to my dermatologist in the city, but without any notification to his patients he has stopped seeing alopecia cases. Apparently being overwhelmed with them. Luckily there is a new dermatologist in the next town over, so I had a referral to him, and we started the kenalog injections again. Only this time, they don't work. 2 months later the spots are only bigger, and there are more of them. I called him to ask about other medications, he went through a list of all the other things I've tried in the past that didn't work and he mentioned a new one (he never mentioned what it was called) that causes an allergic reaction. When I told him how severe my alopecia was getting, he said it wasn't severe enough to prescribe me this new medication, that we should wait a YEAR. I have had to get my hair restyled to hide the spots, but my hair has a mind of it's own and many of the spots show, they're growing so big they're starting to form one. I called him again and mentioned this and he still wanted me to wait a year. Half bald is apparently "not that severe" compared to his other patients. But if my case is clearly only getting worse and kenelog injections aren't working than why do I have to wait so long? I called my family physician and have finally gotten an appointment else where. Unfortunately this means driving nearly 2 hours to the city again, but I hope this new doctor will be more understanding that not every patient is the same, that we all have different situations. My mental health while seeing the doctor close by was not very good. I was upset all the time and stressed out which clearly doesn't help. Since I've decided to stop seeing him I do feel better, and I hope this new medication works. It's been a tough 10 months (or so) but it's a constant battle all the time, and I just hope to find a permanent solution soon.
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Comment by Tallgirl on June 20, 2011 at 7:11pm
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The easy answer? Love that baby, and don't compromise breast milk with injections or steroids. Get an older, smart female relative or friend to help you and talk...and buy a fantastic wig in the meantime!
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Comment by Autumn Leaves on June 20, 2011 at 7:42pm
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Shit! that sounds like a verry, very, very lot of stuff to deal with! do you think that being pregnant was acutally the temporary cure to your alopecia?
I am sorry for the loss of your mother bet that wasnt easy especially when you where pregnant and was so close to your mother, i guess that there is no easy answer to this situation but i think that you have shown a tremendous effort coping with all of this at the same time! As for your hair that is what scares me feeling fantastic when it has grown back but the the dissapointment when it begins to fall out again and everything goes back to the way it was! But i aggree with tallgirl wigs can always do what your head cant!
Being a single mother must be hard but you will have a bond with your child that will be so much stronger and in a way all that your mother was to you will shine through this child which is an amazing thing :)
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Very well-put, Autumn! By the way, pregnancy hormones often promote hair growth...many women have mentioned that on this site.
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Comment by Jennifer on June 21, 2011 at 3:46pm
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so sorry about your mom, that must be very hard! i lost all my hair after i had my kids also..its hormonal i think. it hasnt grown back at all. i just wear wigs and they are comfy and nobody can tell. the very first day i wore one, i was a little scared but now i dont want my hair to grow back, i love my wigs. you just get used to it :)
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Comment by Vicsta on June 21, 2011 at 7:04pm
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I don't have anything to add to the advice and responses other than to say: ((Big hugs)) and my condolences over your loss. I have a friend who is a single mother with a toddler and she is the best mother I know out of all my friends who have had babies ;o) x
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Comment by Davis McConney-Goode on June 27, 2011 at 6:26pm
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Thank you all!! It's been a tough go, people say it gets easier each day, but I don't think that will happen for a long time. I just concentrate on my baby. Unfortunately Tallgirl I couldn't breastfeed, so I COULD have gotten the injections sooner and maybe they would have worked but like I said this dermatologist wasn't really helpful. I have tried wigs before but they itch my scalp and I just don't feel comfortable in them, I've tried real hair, fake hair, differently styles and colours and they just feel... weird I dunno. Not fake or anything I just don't feel like myself. I'd rather go out bald than wear a wig. x
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Go to Dec. 31, 2011 and see Mary's blog on Nice Scarf-Tying...then follow the link for some great head options besides wigs!
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