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I have rarely considered myself a man of few words. But in this case I will. I have had alopecia totalis for over 40 yrs; no hair anywhere. And even though I have grown up, much of the world has not. I know that if I had to do it all over, I would probably made a much better go of my life, despite my condition. But no man is an island. We are all social beings and what people say to us, both to our face, and behind our back, when they think we cannot hear, permeates into us and our feelings/ourselves then reflect out into and onto others. To this day I have never had a girlfriend or a relationship in my life. I am 56. I lost my virginity at 49 and that was about it. I know that we all determine some part of our destiny. But there are many obstacles in the road of life, mostly made up of other people; shallow, insensitive, superficial, and childish. The list goes on. I do realize that there are millions of people in the world who have it way worse than we who have this condition do. But that does not necessarily make any of those in our world (or mine) any smarter or kinder. Maybe until I meet someone, someday, who accepts me as I am (I no longer feel I ever ever will) then I may have something good to say about this condition. So far I do not! Mark Hansen, Milwaukee, WI.
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Comment by Dominique Cleopatra on November 1, 2012 at 11:11pm
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BTW at your age most men end up bald anyway.
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I agree with Rose Marie's post, but in addition to that have you ever considered something like the Hair Club for Men or another place where you can get a bonded on hair system like I have? Anything to get you out of this funk dude : )
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Comment by LilyBell*Murphy'sLawLuvsMe on November 1, 2012 at 8:22pm
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so sorry - left a word out - I am so sorry Mark that you have been lonely
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Mark I am so you have been so lonely - I don't know what else to say to you other than that.
Andre, I do think you are right - looks matter, everyone wants to be with someone they find attractive and try as we might to think that looks don't matter - they do. And try as we might to think there is a really broad range in what is attractive - in my opinion, there really isn't. There is actually science to what the opposite sex finds attractive - has to do with symmetry, distances between facial features, etc. That being said I do agree with have to do the best with what we have and I think your working out is a good place to place your efforts. And yes personality matters - but most people are attracted to someones looks first then get to know the others personality.
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