Relationships

Ever scared that you wont find anyone to love because of what you look like.. or that maybe if you meet and like someone but how do you tell them you have been wearing a wig the whole time, what if they find out you are really bald and leave...
i have a boyfriend right now, weve been together for 6 months, but he's been in my life for two years, we were together for awhile but broke up as things were weird and I was moving away but now i am back and we are together, he was there from the first time my hair started falling out... lately, thing with my hair have gotten a lot worse, and our relationship is also getting weird again. I am head over heels in love with him, we are long distance right now since he is working in a different province so it could just be the distance that is hurting the relationship, but I just worry... if we do end up breaking up.. what will i do, I worry i wont find anyone to understand me anymore. Anyone get diagnosed with alopecia while being single and find someone to be with afterwards who understands... it just feels so hard right now, I know im still young and if it doesnt work out with him I will probably find someone, but it still fells hopeless these days

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Comment by Tallgirl on November 9, 2011 at 7:47pm

Yep. That's how it feels when one is young. But it only takes ONE guy who stays to erase all that and make for no more worries...so be sure you get choosy and find a REAL man!

Comment by Erika on November 9, 2011 at 7:50pm

Yea, gonna see how this one pans out, we are long distance right now and I know he cares, but since we are long distance its hard for us, I love him to death and feel he is the one, so once we actually live together again in a few more months, I;ll be able to tell if it;s not right you know.

Comment by Lisa Santer on November 10, 2011 at 9:14am

Erika, it IS hard. Sometimes we (esp. women) stick with someone because we think we won't find anyone else & imagine being single would be worse. When we have something extra (like alopecia), that mental trap gets stickier. The fact is, alopecia will not prevent us from finding wonderful love. What might? Feeling sorry for ourselves, being desperate, thinking we're not worthy of love, being self-absorbed, being boring, blah blah blah. You could use this time apart as a chance to build yourself as a more vibrant, engaging woman involved in your life and community(ies).

Comment by randi weingarten on December 17, 2011 at 10:36pm

Hi Erika!
This post really hit close to home because me and my boyfriend are long distance as well. He has been in my life for 7 years and we have been dating for almost 3. He was there when I lost my hair at 15 in Highschool, and though we weren't dating then, we started dating afterwards and he really made me feel beautiful and loved despite alopecia. I worry all the time that the distance might pull us apart, it's so hard. I always worry about if we broke up would someone understand me and love me! I think all of this that you're feeling is normal. Being apart from my boyfriend at times makes our relationship really hard, but I love him with all my heart and I know that when were together again that everything will fall into place.
I hope everything works out for you... hopefully you can work past this and move forward in your relationship

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