Should you feel that you have to explain? NO but I do

A couple of years ago I was on holiday in the Dominican. One night,in the restaurant, the man on the table next to ours started asking me about my hair! Wig. He asked me how I had got it curly and if it was permed. I replied that it wasn't naturally curly and smiled hoping that would be that. But his wife kicked him under the table and apologised to me for her inquisitive husband. He told her 'shut up -you don't know it could be a WIG', enough was enough so I said 'well yes actually it is a wig'. He carried on asking questions, it dawned on me that it didn't occur to him that I was wearing it for a reason other than I fancied a new 'do' for the night. So, I then found myself explaining (god knows why) that I didn't have any choice and I had to wear one for medical reasons. In fact he was a hairdresser.

In my younger days I was extremely slim and strangers used to think it was acceptable behaviour to tell me how thin I was! I used to eat like a horse and would have to HATE explaining that it wasn't through choice. I doubt the same people would go up to obese people and point out how fat they are!

What makes people think it is acceptable to make comments to strangers about their appearance?

 

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Comment by Amouna on July 24, 2014 at 10:05am
I hate to explain for people why I'm wearing wig!!
They always asking me if it my real hair or no..
Some people touched my hair to know if it real or wig !!
I feel so annoying ! But I don't know how can I act or faced my problem :/
Comment by Jenny on July 24, 2014 at 11:10am
People ask if you're wearing a wig??
I've never had that -- although of course people could very well be talking behind my back.

How do people know it's a wig??
Comment by wisteria on July 24, 2014 at 11:15am

I can spot a wig at 50 paces lol

Comment by Moishele on July 24, 2014 at 11:33am

I think sometimes people believe they are paying you a compliment by asking. I remember a woman who asked repeatedly about my 'highlights'. She said she'd never seen them so deftly applied and wanted to know who did my hair. I gave serious thought to responding with "Raquel Welch", but then just said "I do my own hair". I mean, it's my hair, I paid for it. And I'm the one who determined the color and I'm the one who styles it every day. If someone thinks there's another truth there who cares? 

Comment by Jenny on July 24, 2014 at 11:33am
How?? M curious
Comment by hoofpick on July 24, 2014 at 11:39am

LOL at Melissa, I had such a good laugh today with what you wrote your husbands pressure principle!!   TY for sharing!!

Comment by hoofpick on July 24, 2014 at 11:40am

Wisteira can you share your wig wearing spotting?  I am curious too.   

Comment by wisteria on July 24, 2014 at 11:44am

pianojenny not sure if your question is for me? If it is, I have had 7 years or mental torment and although I am completely through the other side I can just 'spot' them :-)

Comment by Jenny on July 24, 2014 at 2:38pm

Hey Wisteria, my  question was for you and Anima, who said

I hate to explain for people why I'm wearing wig!!
They always asking me if it my real hair or no..
Some people touched my hair to know if it real or wig !!

 I guess that's always the biggest fear -- that someone will see you walking around and think, "That's a wig!" It's okay for them to know because you told them, but for them to "spot it" would be bad!

Or worse - that they talk about it, or ask people, "Do you think Jenny is wearing a wig? Why? Do you think she has cancer?" etc, all in hushed voices.

Ugh!!

I don't think I have ever seen someone that I suspected was wearing a wig  ... but I bet now that I've passed tons of people who are and I never would have suspected it! I'm not the kind of person who notices that kind of thing anyway, just like I can't spot gay people, ha!

I've heard people say that people will ask them if they are wearing a wig, and I'm always curious what makes people think that, or how they can tell it's a wig.

Jenny

Comment by wisteria on July 24, 2014 at 2:57pm

Until it happened to me I had never even given wigs a thought and it wouldn't cross my mind that anyone was possibly wearing one. Now, its like this homing beacon that starts shouting at me ' look, woman on the right has a wig on' I just cant help it. Maybe it is in inbuilt system I now have for not feeling like I am the only one!

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