Comment by Tallgirl on February 4, 2012 at 2:50pm

Well, you have to do what's good for you...not for the screaming masses or mean girls. When mine came back enough, I got a short shag haircut (1970s), and luckily, it stayed grown in from college to my late 30s. I have come to terms with alopecia now, and do not give a hoot about the folk in this small town or their gossip about my hair or my condition. One football dad once hadn't seen me in two years, and had the nerve to say on the bleachers at a son's game, "Gee, we thought you were dead by now." (He assumed cancer. STILL rude!) You have to consider what you want to portray to others. Pretend it is your own hair? That eliminates sudden short-to-long options (maybe have a short wig, like your own hair, ready-to-go in case you ever need it.). Fashion or mood? Then anything goes. Just want to play with people's heads? Intentionally make crazy transitions and do the unexpected to confuse them. It is all in your attitude and belief in yourself. The others are not worth spit!

By the way...you haven't failed. You are doing what you need to do for YOU, and that takes moxie! Good luck, have fun, and take your new "do" to a Superbowl party to "test drive" it!

Comment by Lili Añel (aka Eulalia) on February 4, 2012 at 4:29pm

Why would it be embarrassing if you lost your hair? You have alopecia. Unfortunately this disease knows no rhyme-or-reason. Your hair can grow back and stay; your hair can grow back and go the next week; your hair could never grow back. I've not heard that there is an "end" to alopecia. So if your hair goes, where your wig again, or get another wig, get a few wigs, change your look up. Don't be scared; you're still "you". You'd be surprised how many people would accept you if you let them. You are not alone. We're all in this thing. Love yourself.

Comment by laura on February 4, 2012 at 7:56pm

Thank you guys so much. I'm all dolled up and ready to face my first day without my wig and you've given me great confidence, I feel like this is a new start and I'm finally truly accepting who I am :)

Comment by Molly on February 4, 2012 at 9:34pm

Hi Laura, I think your photo is lovely and you'll rock a short straight style! think Emma Watson! All right, she's like - 20 - but so what! You look beautiful! go for it!

Comment by Donna Kooken on February 5, 2012 at 5:01am

Go for it! You are you! Be your best! NOW!!!. I have wigs.. they all are about the same color ,,....I cant wear long wigs I look like a "Bank Robber". My wigs are not Human Hair, so I stay away from the oven during Turkey time. If it is over 100 degrees I wear a scarf.
I am new here. I am looking for new friends with Alopecia. I DO NOT HAVE HAIR.

Comment by Mary on February 6, 2012 at 2:09pm

I guess my decision was made easier by the fact that once my hair started coming out to the point I couldn't hide the bald spots, it very quickly went to total head, then total body (universalis). Having no hair, I had to choose between being physically miserable in a wig (which I was - happy for those of you who can wear them), or emotionally uncomfortable being seen bald. I chose physical comfort and am now completely okay with how I look. Good luck and just take it a day at a time and try not to worry about what's going to happen. I'm proof that if the "worst" we fear happens, life goes on and it's really the least of my problems.

Comment by laura on February 6, 2012 at 10:42pm

Thanks guys, you've really made this transition a lot more comfortable for me. Thanks for all your support! Laura xx

Comment by ShoCorona on February 7, 2012 at 3:51am

Hi Laura.....
you look fab in your profile pic and I think you will totally be fine when you go out without your wig :) If anybody asks, you tell them you've just gone for a new look :) and if the hair starts falling out again, YOU will notice it before others and then you can deal with it (having a short wig or wearing your funky scarves) How many women without any form of alopecia do you know that change their hair colour/style reguarly? Good luck and hope it goes well for you...

Comment by Laura Maria on February 8, 2012 at 9:34pm

how did it go? i've been hairless. wigless and hatless for a few months now. it will grow back gorgeous for you and you will soon notice how strong this experience will make you (=

Comment by laura on February 9, 2012 at 4:45am

It's going great, so much more comfortable! i'm going on a camp this weekend and it feels so great to not have to worry about the hassle of my wig :)

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