Comment by Jennifer Krahn on July 2, 2009 at 5:25pm

Meg,
I continue to think you are stunning!! Your well-written knowledge in your posts just enhances that beauty. I'm sorry I'm not over 50 but I just needed to comment. Aging is beautiful in itself in my eyes. How many of us look at the hollywood stars and think that all the botox, restulin and whatever else is allowing them to age gracefully...not I so much. I find that the starlets that have gone au natural are gorgeous. You are NOT invisible, you have been created for people to enjoy your beauty. All the best.

Comment by Tallgirl on July 2, 2009 at 9:26pm

First of all, having gained weight over the years, I see my bald father and GRANDFATHER in the mirror now...so I go more intense on femininity in make-up and dress for work to compensate mentally. Then, I dated someone after my divorce (ex ran off with a younger woman with long hair), and that man I dated also had weight and health issues, plus baldness. He didn't care for me enough, and I finally got the point after trying for 9 years. So, now, at 56, I am also dateless. Since my kids, grandchild, co-workers and gal friends like me, the man loss isn't such a big loss. In fact, I actually can feel a kinship more now with women in my past, mentally, even though most are dead (female relatives). I am the age to be the wise one and grandma, so why try to reverse time? My students and sons need me more than any man did. And for whom do we need all that hair, anyway? My wigs are better than my old hair used to be, and my eyebrow pencil lines are better than my eyebrow hairs are naturally.

Comment by Coleen on July 2, 2009 at 10:56pm

I have to agree, I have been AU for almost two years now and I am 43 years old, the hair falling out of my head was devasating at first, but I got used to that, but then when the hair on my arms and legs and everywhere else was just so depressing, but I have to say my eyebrows and eyelashes were the last to go and I had a really hard time with that, I had really nice eyebrows.

Comment by panuelo girl on July 3, 2009 at 6:59am

Ok so I'm 42 but still older and wiser and all I can speak is from my experience. I have had to look inward to figure out what I'm about and who I am. I've started writing and blogging about my ponderings and after all these years (15 w/o hair) I am finally healing and accepting and finding beauty where I once could not see it. My insides are much better these days. Keep on pondering and thinking...I think it's a great step forward. Must mean you're preparing for a major shift in thinking. Good luck, beautiful!

Comment by Mary on July 3, 2009 at 11:15am

Meg, I just turned 56 last month. I was 54 and 1/2 when I lost all my hair, and the eyebrows and lashes followed 3 months later.

I was terribly upset with losing my eyebrows - they were very distinctive and I always considered them my best feature. In the photo on my page taken the day I shaved my head, I still had them. The permanent makeup helped me a great deal with the loss.

I have focused on doing everything I can to be healthy and feel beautiful and feminine. I lost the 10 lbs I put on with the depression over my hair loss. I make it a point to work out every day and eat right. To feel more feminine, and less like a bald man, I've bought a LOT of inexpensive earrings, and I put on a little eye shadow and brow powder to dramatize my eyes (I never used to wear eye makeup). I wear my Turkish scarves when it's cool enough.

The amazing thing is that after a period of intense mourning for the loss of the OLD me, I've become increasingly comfortable with the NEW me. Yes, sometimes I still hate the way I look, and sometimes (very rarely now) I cry about it. But, these days I'm strangely PROUD of the way I look. I was out at the big shopping mall yesterday making final arrangements for my National Bald Out event, and I felt fine walking around bald. I feel exotic, and special and distinctive. I wouldn't have believed it a year ago. It was a major shift in my thinking, just as you say.

Hope this helps.

Comment by Heather L on July 3, 2009 at 3:14pm

Hi Meg,

You certainly are not invisible- only more beautiful for all you have gone through. I do understand how you feel and am sorry you are having a tough time!

"People are like stained glass windows -- the true beauty can be seen only when there is light from within. The darker the night, the brighter the windows ~ "

Comment by sharon levers on July 3, 2009 at 6:52pm

hi im just 50 and only lost my hair this year and im finding it really hard im ok about wearing a wig and when i have it on i feel ok but as soon as i take it of and look in the mirror i hate it i didnt use to think i looked my age and was always shall we say young at heart but since losing my hair i feel old and look old and my confidence is at a real low now just this week my eye lashes seem to be on the way out so thats another part of being female gone just another part of my identity ive lost i know theres nothing that can be done but i dont know if i will ever get used to it really pleased ive found this site though it does seem to be helping listening to other peoples problems and how they cope guess you just have to keep smiling

Comment by Ronda on July 4, 2009 at 9:42am

Meg,
I lost all my hair too i am 50.
I have AU.
I lost all mine 1 yr ago.
I have great husband and 2 kids and 3 grandkids that support me.
I too have good days and bad days.
I wear wigs.
I have several of them.
You are a wonderful person.
You look great without a wig.
I look in mirror and kinda scares me.
But then I remember God has a plan for me.
And he only gives to us what we can handle.
And I think like you said it for us to see our inner self.
Thanks for saying that .
Thanks to all you your comments and support it helps we get through another day.

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