Venting

People never cease to amaze me. So this woman at church came up to me last Wednesday,and asked me if I was wearing a wig. I was shocked and I started stuttering, and then I finally told her "yes", with a smile. She then asked me "why, because Indian woman have beautiful hair"? and I noticed that I was about to tear up so just then I took my mind somewhere else as I answered " I have a form of Alopecia". She then asked what that was, so I told her. It's surprising to me sometimes that some people do not know that term, I guess because I've made Alopecia my whole life practically. She annoyed me even more by asking me if I was bald, and then apologizing for even asking me these questions. I wanted to pull her ever growing goatee off, lol... I feel like she could have been more sensitive, heck I'm very sensitive when it comes to other people. There are some questions that I just don't ask..I did'nt want her to infuriate me even more, so I left the room making up some excuse, then I went to the bathroom to cry. I wish I can avoid insensitive people, but I can't...I can only try and control the way I deal with them.

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Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:29am

@Nicole, thanks:P I only hope that one day I will become a stronger person, and be less sensitive about it...

Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:31am

@Leonore, thanks for the advice. It's so true though, when someone discovers my AGA, I literally feel "outed"...

Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:36am

@Zoitsa Theo, it's okay, it happens, I guess. I totally understand what you mean about crying to a stranger about it...Actually this week was like the week of questions for me, and not just about my hair loss, but about personal tragedies as well, I can't tell you how many times I walked away from several conversations by pretending that I was getting a phone call, but it's better than crying to a stranger who could care less...:(

Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:40am

@Cindie, this is true....I remember my ex boyfriend once told me that he thought I was losing hair because I did'nt braid my hair every night. He was Indian, and sometimes in my culture there are some beliefs that are not logical, almost superstitious-like. He said that my hair was probably getting caught by my constant movement and turning...when I told this to one of my friends she started laughing. Her response was, "you don't sleep on a bed of nails do you"? lol

Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:42am

@Brittany, it really is upsetting..But thank God I have all of the above people in my corner, as well as my close friends and family. Every little bit of support helps:)

Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:43am

@Marieca, Thanks for the encouragement:)

Comment by asdf234 on March 2, 2012 at 6:59pm
Thank you for sharing this. This whole thread has been invaluable to me. You are strong and full of grace. That is real beauty.

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