Comment by Adrian Theopulos on July 14, 2011 at 4:24pm

I don't know. I hate it so much, I don't think I ever will. I don't tell anyone so that I can keep pretending that no one notices. But of course they do. I'm still at a point where I feel like I can "cover it up" with a product called derma-match, and sometimes I feel really confident about it (mostly only at night), but being around people outside in the daylight, especially on sunny days, makes me feel really nervous. I'm becoming a lot more shy and I'm losing a lot of the confidence I used to have. I could just cry all the time if I let myself. It's horrible and I want it so badly to just go away.

Comment by lynne on July 14, 2011 at 4:26pm

Totally know how you feel adrian, it sucks eh! its been 2yrs for me and its gotten harder to deal with and dont want to hide behind it or feel ashamed of havin alopecia so i dont know what support i need, x

Comment by Adrian Theopulos on July 14, 2011 at 4:34pm

If I can't have a cure, then I at least don't want to feel ashamed. It's not our fault, afterall, but I'm so afraid of people thinking I'm "gross". It feels stupid and vain, I feel like I should just feel grateful that it's not something that affects my health. But I don't. I'd love to feel confident enough to not hide. Maybe some day.

Comment by Tallgirl on July 15, 2011 at 2:36am

Women dye their hair all the time. So, don't feel bad about just jumping into a totally new color that may even fit your personality more. I went from natural brunette to reds, mixes, now blond. Everyone likes the blond on me, and says it fits me! This gives me "permission" to choose whatever wig I want. I usually do this on my birthday, as a gift-to-self, or at the start of a new job or teaching semester, or during a vacation...when most people treat themselves to hair changes!

Comment by R0BB on July 15, 2011 at 4:53pm

Look -

It took me years and years to recognize that if there are indeed people out there that think alopecia is "gross " then theyre the kind of people that I couldnt care less about. Not only do I understand 100% of what Adrian and Lynne are feeling right now , I also still feel this way sometimes. But not nearly as much.

I realize its hard for you girls to accept the following as fact but Im gonna spill it out anyway.
Your both attractive people .
You too TG (lol thought that was a given )

Just an honest comment , from a regular person.
Hang in there and I PROMISE , it will get better.

Comment by lynne on July 15, 2011 at 4:58pm

Thanks for your messages/ i do hope one day i will not give a shit, lol, x

Comment by Adrian Theopulos on July 15, 2011 at 5:09pm

:)

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