"A casual acquaintance approached me at a very public event, placed their hand gently on my arm and said "I've been praying for you." I said "Oh. Thank you but.... I'm not sick." I'm not sure which one of us was…"
I'm a woman approaching 50. I have never had great hair, but I had enough. It has steadily declined over the past 20 years due to genetics and now it's time to make a decision between a wig or shaving it off because I can't stand this anymore. Looking in the mirror every day is so depressing. Something has to change or I will completely lose my mind and myself. I always thought I would go the wig route, but now that it's come down to it I feel myself rebelling. I tried to wear one over a weekend and wanted to crawl out of my own skin because it was so hot and itchy. It made me mad! Why should I have to live in discomfort and why should I have to hide my head? It's MY head, so why should anyone else care what I do with it? I can't quite grasp why any of us are made to feel like we have to hide this from the world. We didn't ask for it.
I try to imagine walking into a local business with a shaved head and it scares me to death! People can be so cruel and I don't know if I can handle it. I have never been the type of person who liked to draw attention to myself so this is extremely outside of my comfort zone. I guess I'm on here looking for support so that I can work up the courage to pick up that razor and just go for it. For those who have taken this step, please tell me how you got past the fear. I can't help but think that if more of us "came out" maybe, just maybe we could make it more acceptable for those who come after us. Wouldn't that make it all worth it?
I have worked through my fears and I'm finally ready to cut it off! It wasn't easy but I feel like I've broken through a wall. It's better on this side. :) I'm cutting it off this weekend with the help of my wonderful husband. I will keep you posted!
I followed through! I ended up with a 3/8" buzz cut. The remaining hair is very, very thin so my scalp is clearly visible. I'm not sure I'll stay with this length or go down to 1/4".
Initially I was okay with it but I had a little bit of a meltdown during the first night. Once I cried it out though I was fine. This is me now so I'm making the most of it. People have been very supportive. Even complimentary, so I'm grateful for that. I'm going to go natural as much as possible, especially in the summer, because it's important to me that I don't hide myself anymore. Having that freedom is very liberating! I will wear wigs or hats more often in the winter but mostly to stay warm. Otherwise, I'll wear them in situations where I would rather blend in, or just because I think it'll be fun. It's good to have options.
Do you have alopecia?
Female pattern baldness
Are you age 18 or older?
Yes - I am 18 or older
Comment Wall (1 comment)
You need to be a member of Alopecia World to add comments!
Any mention of products and services on Alopecia World is for informational purposes only; it does not imply a recommendation or endorsement by Alopecia World. Nor should any statement or representation on this site be construed as professional, medical or expert advice, or as pre-screened or endorsed by Alopecia World. Alopecia World is not responsible or liable for any of the views, opinions or conduct, online or offline, of any user or member of Alopecia World.