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Permalink Reply by Carol on July 20, 2008 at 6:27pm

Well, if she's comfortable she doesn't have to wear anything at all but scarfs and bandanas work well. I would at least talk to her parents before deciding to take this on yourself and if you feel they are having a hard time coping themselves then you can be there for their support as well. :)

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Permalink Reply by Rose Marie' on July 20, 2008 at 10:33pm

Hi Frankie

If the parents are there I would discuss it with them first - if for some reason they aren't I would do the following.

Ask her if she is comfortable with how she is presenting herself. If she is that's great. I have found that unless you as the adult approach and communicate with the teenager/child you will not be able to find out what is really going on. I know many times my daughter was not interested in talking about her AA she just wanted to get on with life and this may be the case with your niece. I also felt that I had more life experience and some of her choices with regards to aa needed to be discussed fully as her life experience was fairly limited and she lacked the ability to get over challenging situations. Talking to find out what she really needs will help - Good luck.

Rosy

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Permalink Reply by Mandy on July 21, 2008 at 10:13am

If she likes what she's wearing now, then let her continue to wear what she's comfortable in. But maybe make sure she is aware of all her options...wear nothing at all, wigs, scarves, etc.

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Permalink Reply by lauren on August 3, 2008 at 11:46pm

im in highschool to and i also play sports and i wear a beanie most of the time. I would just let her do what she is most comfortable with . but when she is playing her sports you could try to suggest a a bandanna something that's not as hot.

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