when i was younger, i was once bald, like absolutely no hair.
and i kept getting known as "cancer girl"
and it really hurt...
does anyone get that?
or has experienced that too?

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i used to wear a bandana, and people still looked at me funny? D:
At Christmas-time my son and I were helping with a homeless ministry children's program. When the parents were picking up their children, a man (a complete stranger) came up to my son and put his arm around him and told him how sorry he was and told him to "be strong". He then proceeded to tell my son that if he needed anything, any part of his body (like for a transplant or something) he could have it. This man was serious and my son stood there not knowing what to say. We tried to politely say that we appreciated the sentiment but he was fine, no cancer...
i'm sorry to hear about that though :(
but it goes to show both ways that stranger really did care about your son!!
which is really nice to see :)
because usually people would never do that.
hahahaha, that made me laugh/smile :)
thank you so much!

and yes i agree,
it's a tough thing to do, but we'll get through it all as one.
I used to get called Kojak by other kids when I was a child, I took no offence to it because I had no idea who Kojak was!! It was only when I learned who Kojak was that I felt quite stung, however, I soon got over it and learnt that talking to people about it helped because its usually ignorance that makes me people say nasty things. I stood up in front of my class and explained about my alopecia and the different types there are and I found that my classmates were much kinder after that and would talk to me more, I got to know them better too. I am now completely bald on my head, I wear a wig most of the time but I usually wear a head scarf to the gym, I have been told I look like a chemo patient though! I have learnt not to care what other people think, my closest friends and family know about my alopecia and they are all that matters to me.
Because I go bald in public, I get the cancer question all the time. Most often, it's women who have had breast cancer who approach me and call me "sister" or say something about me being a member of the "club". They're usually excited to see a woman without hair bald in public, and they tell me they wish they'd done it. People are usually very nice - such as this instance: http://www.alopeciaworld.net/profiles/blogs/a-nice-experience-at-th...

The cancer questions bothered me at first, but don't anymore. It just reminds me how lucky I am to NOT have cancer. I've also made some cards I hand out about Alopecia Areata.

For me, the benefits of going out bald (coolness, freedom, complete lack of worry about being "found out") far outweigh the negatives such as cancer questions. And, I've actually gotten to the point where I like being unique and different. I know it's not for everyone and I support women who prefer to wear wigs, but it works for me.

Mary

Mary
good for you :)
a lot of people, i found, on this site are very strong with who they are.
and that's what im looking for!
Used to hear the whispers from the folks at work when my hair fell out as they 'assumed' that I was undergoing chemo. Some were even bold enough to flat out ask. Always set them straight, even though it was none of their business, rather than disrespect those who are really fighting the big C.

Victoria is right. At times, it takes strength and courage to walk out in public. Ignore the ignorant people...you are all beautiful.
ew, i absolutely hate people like that, they have nothing better to do execpt start rumours?
like, way to show off how really pathetic you are. :\
just think, if they were in our shoes,
they'd have a whole other view on what its really like.
surprisingly I never got cancer girl although I did get baldwin (because I was bald and a twin), bald eagle (cause I lived in california), along with some less creative terms like baldy but it never occurred to any of the other kids that I had cancer. Recently I began wearing a bandanna to my barn and its mostly sweet old ladies there when I ride and they didn't say a thing when I started wearing my bandanna, but one day they asked my mum if I was ok because they were really worried about me because they thought I had cancer but after she explained they all came up to me over the next couple weeks and were really supportive. My trainer said good for her lol which was awesome. A lot of times people are genuinely concerned when they see you are bald because most people know someone that has or had cancer at some point so it triggers the empathy reponse so i decide to take it as a positive rather than a negative because I get to reassure them that I am alright. Some people are rude but i just ignore them.
I was absolutely tormented by the kids at my supposedly christian school. We went to the principal and everything but nothing helped. In 10th grade I switched to public school and was never bothered again. Now that I am older I look back on the people who made fun of me and many of them have nothing to show for themselves or they have had unpleasant circumstances befall them. I really believe that I am strong, compassionate and grounded because of my Alo.

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