I'm a twenty-something and attempting to meet and date new people. Scary enough right? Well I also lost all of my hair and wear a wig. I'd love to hear all of your stories (good and bad) about dating with alopecia. I know this is a very loaded topic but I'd feel a lot better with this new venture knowing how others have navigated the many issues.

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Well, subconsciously I always think that I am not good enough for any girl (that I want), because I dont have hair.. It's true that I lost alot of confidence because of AU, but with help of Sports and finding my mission in life I am getting alot of the confidence back, but still that subconscious thinking gets me all the time...And I always get afraid when it could get serious with a girl, so I always somehow push them of. 

Since AU started, I had one serious girlfriend, but at that time I was wearing wig. And I never would be with her without the wig, I was just to afraid what she would think, and I never talked about it with her. I somehow kept emotions inside me. Since I realized that we already broke up..Then I decided I will stop wearing wig and since then I kissed only 1 more girl, I swear she really liked me and everything, and thats probably the reason I got with her, because if I know for sure that a girls like me(and I also like her) I always do the first step but if I am not sure that she likes me, I am really afraid to do anything...I am just afraid that she would ever say I dont like you because you dont have hair..and that scares me of so much

I like to be open about my baldness, though lately I've worn wigs more often than before. No one has outright rejected me for being bald but I bet some guys have turned the other way when they see me, which is obviously rejection but I didn't waste time with them so that doesn't matter. I find there are plenty of guys who don't care about my being bald-whether I'm in a stage of wearing wigs often or going out bald every day. Bald guys PARTICULARLY find me very attractive ( and I find them the same haha).

I'd say it's hard because there's a lame demographic of people who would even reject the best woman in the world if she was bald but the best way I combat that feeling of annoyance at that reality is to remember that they are just a victim of their environment and that it's their loss. We are just as attractive, capable, etc as any woman with hair so it's all in their minds. :)

I lost my hair at 21, now I'm 23 and have had plenty of guys hit on me but I haven't wanted to date any of them seriously. When I had hair I went through long periods of being single too because I know what I want and I never settle. Just remember you're a catch and other catches will think the same thing :)

Well put! At least it's easier to ween out the jerks who aren't worth it. I haven't found a guy who would date me seriously even if they knew of my alopecia.

I have had AU since I was 8. I'm now 25 and still no luck with having a boyfriend or keeping a date long enough,...much less find a guy who can get over it when I have no wig, no lashes, no eyebrow makeup on. I've had instances where I could be seeing someone for weeks and they're completely fine knowing about the alopecia but doesn't wanna see me without the brows, lashes and wig, because I look like a damn alien (these guys are always the first to go). I've also had a situation where it was fine but when they knew they completely either flipped out, too stunned for words, or just plain fascinated (which I didn't want to be around to entertain their curiosity). It's frustrating.

Dating can be scary especially in such a judgmental world... I first lost my hair at 25 while in a pretty bad relationship... Since moving on from that relationship, it has been hard to start dating without having the typical questions in my head.. Not the normal questions I used to think like, am I acting to goofy?,is she bored?, how can I make her smile? ect.. The questions now became does she feel weird being around someone with no hair? when I take off my hat, will she look at me different?... It bothers me so much that I know the problem I have in dating which is my self esteem but it's one of those things that is hard to overcome when meeting new people.. I know dating isn't that big of a problem when you can overcome that low self esteem... I remember telling a lot of my friends growing up don't let anyone bring you down.. If a person doesn't like you it's there loss.. Now I'm the one in there shoes.. I realize now no one can bring you down worse then what you do to yourself.. I have had a lot of first dates and out of all of them the words of one girl stood out she told me I had a heart of gold.. My response might have not been the best.. I decided to say "my heart is a diamond, cause people have put it through hell and back".. I don't think she found it to funny.. Oh well that just my story about dating pretty boring.. I hope you guys and ladies don't have the same problem..
Hi I was married when I lost my hair. Now I am divorced and dating again. I have no hair on my body and 80-85% hair on my head. I shave it. I also got cool ear piercings to complement my edgy no wig look. But dayly I wear wigs. Funny but with alopecia I learned how to do my own make up I have amazing wigs and guys bombard me with compliments and ask out all the time more now in my 30s than in my 20s. I tell men almost right away because this is part of who I am and I am not ashamed and not going to hide my alopecia. I let them see who I really am. I have not seen one who said I was a less beautiful person without my wig and make up and fake lashes than with all that. It gave me confidence! I have a wonderful boyfriend now who loves me :) when I told men they appreciated my honesty and trust. So do not be afraid of yourself because yourself is a beautiful person, let guys see you and not your alopecia. Be comfortable with it and your man will be too. If you have a great personality and take care of yourself men do not care about anything else

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