Hi guys,

I am Rita and I suffer from androgenetic alopecia, so overall thinning of the hair.

I am still losing hair as we speak gradually, some patches under as well. I have been battling this for almost 10 years and it gotten worst in the last few years. I wear a half wig now and I am able to mask it well as I am still not yet ready to talk about it in the open ( only a few close friends know about this .)

To cut the story short, I met someone on a dating app. He lives in another country and immediately it clicked that this would not be a serious relationship. I wasn't looking for a serious relationship either but was just looking to explore. Our first date went really well and he wanted to go back with me- right after the long evening -  but I was not comfortable so I said no. 

He continued to keep in touch later and I then thought well life is short, so why not call him over to mine?When I finally did. i immediately panicked as he had no idea that i wear a half wig, it was also broad day light and I was afraid he would be able figure it out. I tried to talk to him for a bit to ease my nerves down and by the time when I felt more or less ready + when i told myself not to think so much. He looked right at me and said sorry this isn't happening because I have to go off to tennis in 40 mins.

He told me this -You are not a woman, you are an 18 year old girl who is just playing games with me. If you are just calling over for tea, you should be direct. I thought I was coming over for sex. He proceeds on to tell me how he is a learning lesson in my life and I should know how dating apps work. 

I told him then I needed time to unwind, I can't just get into things right away. He was like nope, I don't ever want to see you again. He went on to un match me the next day.

It is after awhile I have decided to go out and have fun, I don't really know how to navigate around this. I in the end I did not even know what to reply him to his face, I was so embarrassed. I already feel less of a woman as I am still coping with this condition and even though I hardly even know this guy ( the words hit me hard ). I was just looking for any advice, how do you navigate around with this condition if you don't want to share too much info about your hair loss as I feel the moment I open about my condition it is really expressing my vulnerability, the fear of rejection also comes about. 

I am sorry if I sound shallow but I was just really looking for advice.

Thanks.