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Permalink Reply by Deeann on November 30, 2011 at 2:32am

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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on November 30, 2011 at 3:11am

I think if you add other things of style, like those sunglasses that go clear indoors...or a signature hat...that you could have more than half of the battle licked. Look on the eyebrow discussion...I think some men posted last summer about this. Post pix when you come to your new style! And remember...every 2-year old thinks dad is great, until he learns what NO means and starts to use it himself, ha ha!

Don't go crazy...just go bold (with an o...we already have the word with an a) and have crazy fun with style!

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Permalink Reply by Butterfly* on November 30, 2011 at 4:14am

Hi Ethan,
I was just thinking this morning that my life as an adult is more easier than the one I had as a child with alopecia (maybe because now I can wear make-up, maybe I am a stronger person...)

I do think that some eyebrows might help you getting yor confidence back.
Also, some contact lenses in a lighter color - blue or green - might look much better with no eyelashes - like those people who are natural light blonde ;)

Don't forget that bald men are sexy and it's all about attitude! ;)

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Permalink Reply by Fulvio982 on November 30, 2011 at 8:22am

29 y.o., having AU since 4 years and AA since 9..well. If I have to say it was hard and the fact to be alone by myself helped me not thinking about other reactions (quiet lonely life in those years) but also I couldn't be supported by my family that would have suffered to not be capable to solve/help it but passing the week in hospitals hearing about b.s. medical solutions we read everydays. So the time before they saw me I had them and the next one (few months) I was AU. I remember and also now someway I experience it, it was hard, really hard, to meet againg friends that didn't see me in that way... without any hair on my body. Somehow I could feel the "weird sensation" they had from a mile. Not a serious discussion ever happened and maybe it was a better thing but it was hard to just pretend to be happy, to smile and to do like nothing ever happened. With female friends even were harder to simply meet as "yeahhh what's up?"...

I always laughed at the stress reason about alopecia, but i also think that in someway if we would have been tried to solve STRESS instantely when we had the possibility at first, maybe anything happened later would have been a bit less aggressive on our immune system.
My point is... alopecia changed my life in a really bad way, changed my choices in a not best way and everything I can do now is just to go on, happy smile, drained soul. I mean I don't care really... even if tomorrow my hairs would come magically back, the problem would be there the same way as before. I am sure about this cause the evolution of a human character need to be slow to adapt to the events and to remember from where we are from...

But when I watch at my old photos I didn't miss my hairs, even a little bit, I do miss the situation in wich I had not experienced yet all the sh@t that was going to happens".. I always had health problems since ever, but all the things plus the problems that life put you in front of everydays... well... sometimes I feel like I 'm 137 years old.

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Permalink Reply by Eliza alisa abgail on November 30, 2011 at 8:59am

Jeffery on here has tattooed his eyebrow and they look awesome!! I think guys are lucky to be honest. They look hot bald!! Us ladies can't compare !! :( Ooo yes I know I had those moments. Bald FAT cow.... I used to call myself.... And even joked to myself. I hope the flight doesn't book me for excess baggage or ITS A MIRACLE!!!!!!!! She can fit through the door............ That little voice or what you really see. Is not what people really sees.They can see beyond those things you find aren't perfect.( or sometimes even think you are lucky no butt hairs)They can see your handsomeness and awesomeness and know what is inside you. Even your son will see you too. If you don't smile or be happy or show that shine you have in you. How will he ever know how really awesome you are with that smile?

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Permalink Reply by Ethan Johnson on December 1, 2011 at 2:31am

thank you all so much for your replies. i had no idea there were so many people out there that are having to deal with this. its helping me out just knowing that if you all can do it, so can i. i've actually seen a big difference in my confidence since joining this site. its just so confusing how i feel inside. I love myself, and i love my life, my family, my friends. I just feel like it would be so much easier if i had hair. but then again if i did, i may not be who i am today. the hardest thing about it is finding a JOB. meeting new people is the hardest thing about this in my eyes. there always just assuming that something bad is wrong, and it kills me because i don't want everyones pitty, i dont need it. but i hate being stared at, its depressing.

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Permalink Reply by Eliza alisa abgail on December 1, 2011 at 3:06am

Someone told me to make light of the situation.DRAW ANGRY EYES AT THE BACK OF YOUR HEAD!!! I am sure no one will stare you again. Joking aside. there are ways to deal with stares. Create your own little world where stares don;t exist.When people stare think of cars and whatever makes you happpy. Personally I use my own little sense of humour and think of funny situations... Disadvantage- people will think you are mad person laughing to yourself. Or even telling yourself its because people find you hot and awesome. Some people don't have the confidence to do what you do everyday. And they might even think you are hot!!! Third just go up to them and say do you want to touch this head? or just having alopecia cards and passing it to them.If they really annoy you GLARE!!! If only looks can kill wink wink.

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Permalink Reply by Kyree Jones on December 1, 2011 at 9:05pm

I feel u dude. I would really wouldnt care at all that i didnt have hair, its just the fact tht i have no eye lashes or brows that makes it hard to live with

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Permalink Reply by Ethan Johnson on December 5, 2011 at 3:21am

I heard that bro. That has been the hardest thing for me, it seems like when i talk to ppl the first thing i notice is there eyes, staring at my no eyebrows haha. it makes it hard for me to hold a conversation with people. You got AU?

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Permalink Reply by Greg on December 19, 2011 at 7:07pm

I'm AU and I'm very familiar with the "glance to the eyebrow area" when talking to people.
I can live without all my hair, but yes, eyebrows and lashes would be great :)
I have black rimmed glasses which really helps (you can get clear lenses) and as someone mentioned, you could go down the tattoo route.

I always think about what I would do, and I know that I'd be glancing too, so I don;t mind or mention it...people look, second glances, some even comment or ask questions (kids are great at pointing these kinds of things out, blessed with an honesty us adults have lost). At the end of the day, there's no harm in curiosity. Life is short, hair won't make it any longer.

I do find my self confidence increased with regular gym work.
I'm short and bald with glasses. Better not be tubby too right?!

Anyway, good to make your aquaintance gents, stay healthy and positive :)
Greg

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Permalink Reply by Emory on December 5, 2011 at 9:43am

I am a big fan of permanent tattooing. I have both my eyebrows and eyeliner tattooed. The eyebrows are tattooed with hair strokes so it looks like real hair. The lash line is just a thin line to give my eyes some contrast when I'm not wearing makeup. It's subtle enough that I still have to wear eyeliner over it when I go out. My makeup artist does tattooing for men with alopecia as well. It's expensive and the lash line tattooing is not pleasant, but I think it's the best thing I've done since being diagnosed. I wear a custom wig all the time when I go out and most people have no idea that I have AU.

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Permalink Reply by Sarah y. Clingman on December 5, 2011 at 11:10am

I'm 37 and have had Alopecia from the age of nine. I shaved my head bald in 99 because I had more bald then I had hair. I guess because I grew up with this to me I am who I am. I had never really been depressed about my disease. I went to my first Alopecia conference in 2003 & had mixed feelings about it. It was great to meet so many people like myself and many of the classes were a great help. But many of the people where complainers and It really brought me down. I then noticed that in most of my classes I was the only one that had eyebrows & lashes with my bald head. I said to myself how blessed I was and thanked God this wasn't me because "I would not leave my house if this happens to me" Well God decided that he would have me face another battle and within 2 weeks of saying this I lost all my brows and lashes. I bought my first wig and anytime I left the house I would wear it. I no longer wear my hat or bandana because of the blank canvas on my face. I just want to say yes, I too feel like men can pull off the bald look allot easier then woman, but I want to point out as much as I hate it & struggle with it ever day, I think us woman can pull off the no brows & lashes better then the men. Us woman can do our best with makeup to cover/hide what is missing and you men I assume are not applying makeup to your faces. Sorry to go on and on here just wanted to say usually everything we read on here its woman saying this is easier for men when I'm sure your journey with this is NO easier then ours.
God Bless

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