How and when is the right time to tell your child ?

Hello 

I am going into my 7th year of living with this awful condition and although I am much better I still have my up and down days. I have a beautiful 10 year old daughter and she knows that something isn't right with my hair but has never seen me bald. I go to great lengths to hide it from everyone and quite frankly I am so tired and exhausted of living this constant lie. However, after watching the witches movie the other day she was absolutely horrified when the witches took off their wigs to reveal their bald heads. 

Just wondered how on earth you go about telling your children. I'm not ready but I know I'm running out of time as she constantly asks me if I have any hair.

Feeling rather demented at the moment and don't know what to do for the best? Any suggestions ? x x 

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Permalink Reply by Alo-mom on July 6, 2019 at 11:48am

Honestly, if your daughter is asking if you have any hair then she must have an idea that you do not. The next time she brings this up is the time to have that mother daughter discussion. Ask her is she wants to see you without a wig, if she says yes then share with her, if she says no then tell you will be happy to show her your head when she wants you to. Also I would contact NAAF and ask them to send you material on Alopecia so that your daughter may learn more about it at her speed. They have material for children that might help you explain your AA to her. They are a good organization to get familiar with. 

Do not compare the "witch program",  with your alopecia for that is all out of context that is no good for your mental well being. You would want your daughter to share her concerns about her own body and your sharing with her is no different. It is the beginning of a new relationship with your daughter. Best of luck.

Permalink Reply by Bonnie Piper on July 11, 2019 at 5:24pm

thank you so much for your reply and suggestions. I know i need to have the conversation - i suppose i'm the one not ready to loose control just yet. x x x

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