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How has alopecia changed you in a positive way?
I love hearing peoples growth stories. When I first got it, I thought- How could this happen to me at 21 years old right when I am graduating college and moving to a state where I have no friends? Why me?
Now I realize that it's no longer a big deal and that it has changed me in so many positive ways.
First- I really took advantage of the things I had and didn't notice they were gifts that many do not have and that I may not even have forever.
Second- I have become more patient, confident and stronger in helping myself heal and in conducting myself in social situations.
Third- it has TRULY helped me to see the people that are in my life to help me and who really enjoy my company-not just a guy who is friends with me "in case he can sleep with me one day".
Fourth- It has helped me to embrace my individuality. I used to be so stuck on trying to seem "normal" and "fit in" and have "normal people like me" in the past even though deep down I felt very different (because everyone is!) Now, I realize that we are all so different. I have learned many peoples "hidden issues" by being so open about mine and have found people open up to strong and empathetic people that being different is actually a good thing. They don't understand me and many times they want to understand. When they get to know me, often they feel that they can relate to me in some way in another issue they had that made them stronger.
Fifth- Weirdly enough I think I'm better looking. I wouldn't say I have gotten better looking to others since I've lost my hair but I used to berate and nitpick myself all the time about my looks. I thought I was good looking but deep down I had decided that I was ugly (if you can understand that). Now, I see myself without hair and I notice my big beautiful eyes, my cute nose, my glowing smile and the nice shape of my head and the positive effects of how much I exercise and I think- hey, I'm a good looking person! I hated my eyes before (I don't understand how as now it's my favorite feature)
So, while it sucks because people think I have cancer or some people are going to reject me without getting to know me, or I am concerned about alternative look of my baldness when I apply to jobs... I don't think given everything that has come out of alopecia that it's all that bad :)
Now I want to hear how you've changed for the better! :o)
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Permalink Reply by Nammer on
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1. Getting AU at a young age has made me more confident and outgoing, I hate the term YOLO but its true you can not hide.
Being more confident and outgoing gives you more opportunity to enjoy life, dating, travel etc.
Nothing can stop you2.I like to leave a lasting impression even if its "that guy with no hair" , if someone talks about you better give them a reason to talk about you and remember it.
3.I think if my hair were to ever come back, I would shave it not completely bald, but having AU has changed me, I did hate my hair when I used to have it
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Permalink Reply by Rach1992 on
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That is great to hear :-) I am glad you found the positives and realize that having hair can be pretty awesome. I also don't miss fighting with my hair all the time!
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Permalink Reply by icarus on
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Rach1992, i really like your perspective, u have a very positive breeze.
Ok, some people look good with AU, whereas others really suck. Bald *can* be beautiful but not always, so as hair. Not all hairy people are pretty.
I was lucky enough to have all my hair back after a mild-to-moderate case of alopecia. The way i see it, 3 months of shedding were kinda strechy. Massive regrowth afterwards really alleviated this feeling.
Having a totally bald head is a uniform thing: shiny bald head. Patchy hair, on the flip side is creepy with all the strange geometry. Haven't lost any eyebrows/lashes but i think this is the most difficult stage, to lose an importan piece of facial expression. Women can tatoo some eyebrows of use fake lashes, while male sufferers dont have this option.
To the point: the only positive thing was to try a haircut that i wouldnt try otherwise: shaven head. I looked gooood, alpha male. I am thinking of keeping it shaven even my hair has fully grown. There are objections from my envirorment but i will brush them away.
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Permalink Reply by Bagiral on
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Hi everybody! Hi Rach!
My story with A have been beginning from my childhood. 6 years ago, after birthing my daughter I lost all my hair. A became AU. I found that AU was the implacable foe for 5,5 years. But then, I suddenly understood, that AU was my friend, the extraordinary friend. I got a lot of drugs, treatment, but only simple things can help with my hair.
So, I met a doctor, who has practiced Chinese medicine. She did special massage. And after 1 month little white hair appeared! It was miracle. But it is not all... I has believed that it was possible being healthy. In my opinion, it is the hardest thing, especially you are bald for many years. I used some mediums and I believe I`m healthy. Every day, every minute.. And it helps to become strong and positive. Unfortunately, I can`t share my photos, because my hair is as little as invisible. But I hope I`ll do it soon. Thanks))) You can write me if you want)) I`ll be glad and try to help each my "colleague".
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