Just diagnosed, spreading quickly and terrified of losing the girlfriend

So real quick background. Im 25 alomst 26 year old male. Just last week I noticed a few patches missing in my facial hair. I saw a dermo which explained to me what it was. Since then it has been spreading quite quickly in my beard area and believe there is a small spot starting on the back of my head. As for my girlfriend, we have been dating for a little over 8 months and I can tell you I have never felt this way about another person. She is the first girl I have ever said I love you to because she is the first girl I have had no doubt I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. She has helped me through tough times but I really dont know how she will handle this. She currenty lives about 1.5 hours away so we only see each othe on the weekends but talk every night. I have not told her about this yet, as I wanted to do so in person. So tonight when I get to her place Im going to have the talk. I really do think that she will be OK and help me get through this, whether its temporary or permanent but what I am struggling with is the guilt of making her go through this with me which may drive her away. I know I may get a reply or 2 saying that if she cant handle it then shes not worth it and I appreciate that opinion but trust me I will not share that opionion. She is the world to me and is my first line of support. I tell her things my family doesnt know and has made the last 8 months the best of my life.

Tonight may very well end up being one of the lowest points in my life if this does not go well. Im trying to stay positive but am completely terrified of what might come the next few weeks. If my hair continues to leave at its current rate I know I my mental state is going to go through hell and if I lose her on top of it I honestly dont know where I end up.

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BE PRO ACTIVE! GO see a dermatologist right away! Stay healthy, in alot of cases the alopecia isn't genetic it's autoimune, and maintaining a healty life style is important.

Let's say, worse case scenario you loose all your hair.... The bald guys I see at the gym are sexy as hell. These guys are fit, confident and proud...They make me want to go to them and just touch their riped shoulders and their shiny clear scalps. ( I think there are men at the gym that shave their heads because they just like how they look bald over how they look with hair, certainly some sexy african american guys I've seen prefer it)

If you are loosing hair in spots, and your own hair isn't long enough to cover the spots, shave it all off...be bare, be sexy, be happy. Your girlfriend will love it becuase you do.

By the way...the sexy ones are the ones who smile. The non-smilers appear too hard-ass or dejected for me. Anyone with me on this? Even some guys on AW could use smiles on their profile pix! Look...and be...approachable and lovable!

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