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No hair= no hook ups= no dates= no tinder matches
Being a young bald guy really sucks. 21 with AT is awful. Almost no women are attracted to me, and the ones that are happen to be extremely unattractive and have nothing in common with me.
Call me a narcissist if any of you want, but I hate not being able to date beautiful women. I'm sick of not getting any tinder matches despite using my best photos. I've even bought tinder plus and paid for boosts and STILL nothing. I hate being ugly. It's like I'm invisable to any woman that is considered attractive. Being bald just plain sucks with a capital S. I go to the gym, I have a good style, great hygiene, and and facial hair. It doesn't matter. No hot girl my age is going to go for a bald guy.
Fuck making 50k a year at 21 years old, fuck having my own place, fuck having a nice car none of that shit matters cause I'm ugly as fuck. And if a woman happens to be interested in me, it's always ONLY for a long term relationship so she can use me. I'd rather be a poor schmbag with hair working at a sleazy bar than an established bald guy. Fuck my life. Sorry for all the typos during this vent/rant I typed it on my phone.
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Permalink Reply by Pamela on
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With a mouth like that, I wouldn't give you a glance either. Women look for a guy with character and substance. Sounds like you have neither.
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He may have spoke out of term, but he's frustrated and upset. People say things they dont mean in ways they shouldn't when they are really down. I have AU and I know exactly how he feels. Maybe next time try and be a bit more positive in your comments before condemning someone like that. We all get down and we all need support after all.
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Permalink Reply by Siella scott on
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Big ups universal1984! Very well put. A little kindness goes a long way! Impressed! :×)
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Permalink Reply by hagster on
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If he uses language like that when he's upset, he's going to use language like that in his everyday speech. I was taught that people use foul, offensive words because they really don't know how to express their thoughts otherwise. He's not going to find a partner unless there's a girl out there looking for someone to constantly drop the f-bomb ...
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My son who is 24 feels the same way. He has developed AU in the last yr. He had tons of dates and hits from tinder previously. However he is slowly adapting to his new look and has become a deeper, more empathetic male. Sounds like you have your strengths and hopefully will find a kindred spirit. perhaps this is a good time to spend on yourself, discovering and developing who you really are. Wish you luck.
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Permalink Reply by Sad1995 on
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What good is empathy and a kindred spirit when 99% of the opposite sex things I'm ugly and won't date. What is empathy when you are always alone while your peers are living their lives, partying, going out, hooking up etc... While if you try to the same, you get the cold shoulder from the opposite gender.
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Permalink Reply by gldean1988 on
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You are not your hair.
Plenty of girls dig bald dudes, but no one digs insecurity. I'm sorry, man. Grow some confidence balls.
I like bald guys---but with my AA, it's really hard to pass judgement over such things. Also, my dad is bald----many girls have bald daddies and I'm sure it's all related.
Take a good look at yourself and figure out what is attractive about you. Know that your hair does not define you. Do you work out? Do you take care of yourself? Believe me, I find that to be the sexiest thing about someone---someone who exercises and eats well. But, that's just me. Everyone has their things they find attractive. I'm sure there are plenty of things about you that women would find attractive.
Also, get off tinder. It's a terrible app that's made for shallow hook-ups. I've never met anyone of substance from there, just creeper dudes looking to hook up (if that's you---I'm sincerely sorry)
If you want someone of quality, maybe match.com or eharmony. At least there, you get a profile and not just a picture (so shallow :-P).
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It's obvious that you did not actually read my discussion. I don't want a longterm relationship right now. I just got out of one. Because I'm bald I'm not attractive enough to have flings/short term relationships with women. I'm ugly and unattractive due to alopecia. As I said in my discussion, I exercise and eat healthy. I'm very secure and confident in myself. It doesn't make a difference when 99% of women I interact with automatically find me ugly. Tinder is proof of that. Lol it's funny how u call me a creepy guy who only wants sex when you were on tinder yourself. Not looking for anything serious does not equate to being creepy.
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Permalink Reply by Stars-r-Aligned on
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This answer all the way.
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I'm not young but I feel very much the same! People seem to scatter when I vent. It is just where I am sometimes. Not self pity, just a necessary part of grief. Hugging you in my heart. I'm sorry for your pain. Not going to send you pretend rainbows and sunshine to blow up your ass, but it gets a little easier in time. Been without a male friend for 9 yrs now. Prefer being alone to humiliation. Trying to learn that the definition of humility is different than humiliation. Sometimes I just seem to NEED to rant. If they can't handle where you are, they don't deserve you. PRAYERS we both learn more about self love. There are a LOT of beautiful, young, bald, women here. Look at them, their EYES, attitude and wow! Mannn there are "relationship" groups on here and a lot of people your age. Sure you're not the only person your age not wanting LTR. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel. Might pass like a freakin kidney stone.. but it will pass. Hell, at least I hope so! Check it out?
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Unfortunately, most women with alopecia refuse to date men with alopecia. And overall it's easier for women. If a women is bald and wears a wig, lots of men wouldn't care if she was somewhat attractive. It's the other way around for women .
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I promise you that it's not easier. I've been ignored completely by my 33 yo favorite nephew since I sent him pics of my sparse hair then ones with the wig. He blocked me on fb. Stopped calling or taking my calls. I told him I KNEW he'd be honest with me. Well he was. If my own family thinks I'm hideous do you think I want to chance it knowing how real guys think? Hell I KNOWWWW HOW I LOOK! Have had former Co workers stop me in public and badger me with questions. People in stores say that I haven't changed one fing bit? Realllllllllly? I'm not ugly, that's just the "devil" lying to me. If I'm not ugly bish WHY DID YOU GO THERE? Like we need reminders. I just don't mess with people anymore. Other stuff going on anyway so I really prefer being alone. Too sick to entertain. zBUT, o had a youth, shitty as it was I had beautiful thick hair and up until 8 mos ago I still had a lot of hair. Idw 2 bother w makeup and eyebrows. Itchy and scratch it off and look more like a clown. Wigs are itchy and cause yeast and sting my face. It just ain't worth the trouble of pretending to attract someone who'll see the real stuff eventually. AGAIN THO. I HAD HAIR at your age. Can't say I feel you. I do feel your pain tho. Just saying. It's not easy for anyone who has this to deal with. I hope you find a little peace within if only for a min. Been a hard days night for me dude. Take care of you. I'll do my best to do the same. Saturday night... praying for sleep. Smdh! Thx for letting me vent.
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